Im 13 he is 20 What do I do?

You should quit talking to him and start talking to boys closer to your own age.

Tell your parents, your teachers or the police. Stay away from him and find better friends.

Amen

I agree with Boomer. You should not be around this guy. He is not behaving in an appropriate way with you.

Find yourself a boyfriend who is in your age group. This guy is TROUBLE.

Stay far away. This guy is no good for you. Better yet, tell a trusted adult.

Go with your instincts, it's your best protection. I think you should tell an adult (parent, teacher, guidance councilor) maybe this guy needs to spend some time in jail instead of bothering young girls. I also agree with Boomer, stop talking to him, no excuses necessary. Take control and just stop responding.

He is acting like a pervert and pedophile for a reason.

Stay away from him.

Consider for a moment what your DAD and Mom would say if they knew this guy was asking you about your virginity.

I have a feeling he wouldn't be so brave facing your father about that.

FINALLY! Something all the members of A2K agree on!

(oh wait, we haven't heard from Hawkeye yet)

oh cripes.

mickey, if you're reading this...

if someone named hawkeye posts, do NOT listen to anything he says.

He is a big CREEP!

I think that this guy is a loser, and you can make better friends.

What you should do is use your common sense. Firstly, why would a guy 20 make comments like that to a 13-yr old unless he's looking for trouble. Don't be flattered about that attention at all. Why not talk to your parents or some authority..like a teacher or some trusted adult? You might be able to prevent a possible rape.

ragman makes a good point.

don't be flattered by the fact this "grown man" is paying attention to you.

Ask yourself why he is not trying to get girls closer to his age to go out with him?

I'm sure you're a very smart young lady, for you age. But I'm sure you can also see that there is a big difference between you and an 18, 19, 20 or 21 year old woman.

Not to insult you at all Mickey, but to most 20 year old guys, you are a kid. That's ok, because compared to them, you are.

Ask yourself why this guy wants to take the virginity of someone that all of his friends, co-workers, etc would think of as a kid?

Don't worry, you'll be 17, 18, 19 before you know it. When you are, you'll realize this guy should not have been bothering you when you were 13.

I don't understand why you'd want this person as a friend. He's trying to take advantage of you in a very bad way.

Call a cop... If 911 don't work, call the donut shop...

I reccomend you tell as many people as possible. Friends, parents, police, priest, teacher, guidance councillor, his friends or parents if you know them ...tell anyone and everyone. You have done nothing wrong. Nothing to be ashamed of. You have already begun this process by posting here and deserve to be congratualted.

By having this out in the open any potential problem dissapears.
By telling someone any hold he may have over you will be broken.

If you cease to be friends with him and do not tell anyone it is likely he will turn his attention to someone less capable of protecting themselves.

Tell someone, tell someone else, tell a 3rd person, keep telling different people until you begin to feel comfortable again.

Absolutely! ANY 20 year old guy who hits on a 13 year old girl is a Loser!

No offense to you, Mickeyy. You may be gorgeous and look much older than you are. Still, you are 13 and he knows it. He could go to jail for doing what he's suggesting to you. Did you know that?

Yep.

Stay away from this guy. Any 20 year old guy asking 13 year olds these things has a problem. You do not want to be friends with him.

I agree that you should tell adults in your life about this.

And, this guy is trouble. Stay away.

He could be a pimp. There are people who want virgins and very young girls. He could be catering to them. Get your parents to inform the police.

I don't see why you want to be friends with him when you think he acts like a pervert a lot of times. But if that's what you want, ask him. And if a platonic friendship is something he'd be willing to settle for, good for the both of you! I'm not holding my breath though.

I personally feel there's nothing wrong with a 20-year-old falling for a 13-year-old (or vice versa) - but since the guy mentioned in the original post has dared to ask Mickey such a personal question even despite not knowing her well enough, I'd concur with others in that he's a pervert/pedophile.

And yes, he could possibly be a "pimp", as talk72 pointed, on a look out for another virgin target.

Either way, he's dangerous. Stay away.