new partner wants me to avoid having contact with ex

Tank you, I agree with you completely. I wish it would work out with my new partner. Sigh.....

Absolutely true, we all have a past.

Thank you for your oppinion. It is really very important your oppinion for me. As you said, being a father figure is important when the child sees it that way as well. Thank you so much

You are so right about that. Wouldn't it be the fact that I love my new partner so much, it would be much easier to tell her that. But I get the point Bill and really appreciate having gotten your view on that topic. Hope to have the courage and tell her that. Have a great evening.

Fully agree with you. That's why I got sick the last few months because I'm in that terrible situation on one hand to love her so much, and on the other hand having that very big issue which she will never, ever agree with and refuse to go any step towards a compromise. Sigh.....

That's what I think as well. As long as there's no romance/attraction involved anymore, then it shouldn't be a problem to see each other occasionally.

I think you summed it up nicely -- she doesn't trust you.

If you haven't given her any reason not to trust you, and she still doesn't trust you, she never will. You will never be able to reassure her enough. You're paying for the mistakes someone in her past has made.

It is hard when you truly love someone but you run into a deal-breaker.

Best of luck!

I'm sorry it's not working out for you, george.

I'm impressed with your thorough and thoughtful responses here.

Good luck...

What she said. Welcome to A2K, George.