@chai2,
Listen up!
When he said these 3 important points, do you know what he tried to say between the lines?
Do you know what he means?
Or you just wanted to get ready to attack whatever came out from his mouth?
Maybe I was wrong but please allow me to explain his words:
When he said "expect too much" which doesn't mean that the wife is not allowed to expect. Of course, she can expect. Ok she can expect, then where the problem is?
Your husband knows that you want "something special" from him. He had tried very hard to listen and listen and listen...
Then usually, the wife might end up talking too ******* much, which will him an impression that, "God, that's too ******* much and some
complicated parts I can't even understand... she expected too much from me!"
In fact, men have a nature to make their women happy. If you are able to make your expectation/requests clear and short, instead of nagging, they can understand you much better.