If you can not predict in a large percent of the times how someone will react to any given events in what way do you know them?
Is that how it feels (for those who feel that they don't really know anyone else and no one really knows them)?
On the contrary, it can be quite exciting if you don't know every move of the
other person. Their changing thought process can give you new insight into
different subjects and it can keep a relationship lively and interesting.
Claiming to know a person in and out can be quite boring, especially if behaviour
patterns are predictable or expected of one.
Oh God - I'm not talking about knowing every move of a person -in fact I've said several times that has nothing to do with what I'm talking about in terms of 'knowing' someone. Knowing someone is different from knowing everything they do or possibly might do - as in being able to predict.
In fact, if you really know a person, you're much less likely to feel that you NEED to know everything they do.
If you know someone, there is an element of faith in who they are that makes knowing everything they do unnecessary.
Maybe it my poor engineer brain however feelings close to a person is not knowing them loving then is not knowing them , agreeing or disagreeing is not knowing them and I think we are getting confused here or at least I am getting confused by the meaning of knowing someone.
To me it is simple to know a person is to be able to predict that person likely feelings and behaviors.
But apparently, some people on this thread don't think that is the right answer, and would (perhaps) prefer something more mysterious. So mysterious that although they reject the obvious answer given by you, they are unable to give one of their own.
human beings are excellent deceivers.
, but the fact is, you can never truly "know" another human being.
Quote:human beings are excellent deceivers.
And that might be why you feel you can't know someone - whereas the majority of people I've known have not deceived me.
Maybe that's why I feel I can 'really' know someone.
I don't think there's a right or wrong answer.
I think everyone experiences people differently.
I personally believe I do and can know other people and that I am known by other people.
This does not mean I've entered their souls and lived their lives or that they've done the same with me however.
At least not in my book.
Quote:But apparently, some people on this thread don't think that is the right answer, and would (perhaps) prefer something more mysterious. So mysterious that although they reject the obvious answer given by you, they are unable to give one of their own.
On the contrary - I think by my definition it's much LESS mysterious than by your definition.
I said: to know someone is to have an accurate and informed view of them. It doesn't mean you will always know what they will do next.
It doesn't mean that you become them and experience their feelings/thoughts/etc. exactly as they do as Dosed proposes.
It simply means you have knowledge of who they are - how they came to be that way - what they think- what is important to them. And you may only know these things because they told you these things.
What does 'getting to know someone' mean? Does it mean 'getting to BE them'?
Does it mean, 'Able to guess what they will do in every single situation'?
I think YOU guys are the ones who are making it more complicated than it is.