@BillRM,
Quote:Once more in SM games is it not norm to have a safety word so if the woman wish to end the game she can do so?
Would you ignore the safety word unless she begin fighting you for real?
I recall that we had this diversion about 6 months ago, but anyways here we go...
in BDSM you will find some the of most anal puritans to be found anywhere, lots of rules and attempts to zero out risk. Under Safe, Sane and Consensual rules when you go to a club you get a rule book to sign that can resemble a homeowners association covenant in length and micro managing, and all through the night d0-gooders will roam looking for rule breakers to ball-bust, and more than a couple of violations will normally get you thrown out for life. SSC is the land of contracts, safe words, and a detailed script for every scene (play time)
This has recently become too much for many of us, who go by Risk Aware Consensual Kink...with RACK the focus is on making sure that each person is not a nut job, that they are in the room because they want to be, and they have a general idea of what will happen in that room. They also are made sure to know how to stop anything and know that they have the right to leave and to speak their mind at any time even if they are a sub or a slave. But when activities start it has not always been decided what will happen.
Also, things are allowed to take place in RACK that are not allowed generally to take place in SSC, such as fluid transfer. With SSC everyone should be stone sober and with RACK the rules of the club vary but generally are like you find anywhere as, as long as you dont act like an out of control drunk and as long as the person you are playing with knows that you have been drinking and agrees to play then all is good. In most SSC ruled event a safe word is mandatory, under RACK it is advised but is not always mandatory, though following a safe word if one has been adopting always it.
I do know long term 24/7 couples who do not have a safe word, where the sub does not have the right to object, where the rules are follow the instructions or leave. These rules have been agreed to at the front end of the relationship, and hard limits given are respected until they are repealed. I have no doubt that Firefly would want one half of the couple locked away for life and the other one "helped" to learn what a victim she is.
Probably more than you want to know, but hopefully somewhere in there I supplied what you were looking for.