@Ionus,
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My daughter when she was 8 was molested by my (then, now ex-) partner. She is now 18 and is still not emotionally strong enough to take the matter to the Police and has considerable mental health issues as a result. I tried to tell my ex-wife, the girls mother, that my daughter had suddenly become sexually aware. She didnt believe me. At one stage I was in the gut wrenching position of having my 9 yr old princess make sexual advances to me.
And what are these idiots worried about ? Not the men who are raped by men, not the women who are raped by women, not the men who have been raped by women, but only one class, far smaller than the others put together, women raped by men. Then glowing arse has the cheek, the sheer gall and effrontery, to say she hasn't a feminist agenda. Of course doddering old trepidation doesnt understand much of anything so he rushes in to defend poor poor pitiful women not realising he is taking away women's equality in the process.
There are other issues I have, but that should suffice to explain my anger for the time being. I dont believe in God, but I pray there is a hell. I want to see these ******* clowns burn for an eternity.
I started this thread to discuss a particular issue--the tendency to blame the victim when a woman has been raped. It is an attitude that affects jurors, and that adds to the difficulties of victims in reporting a rape and the difficulties of prosecutors in winning a rape conviction. I thought it was a topic that might provoke discussion, and that it certainly has done.
My choice of topic had absolutely nothing to do with a "feminist" agenda, or an agenda of any sort. I am not a feminist. I have never been the victim of a sexual assault, nor have any of my family members or close friends been so victimized. I am not a man hater, and I am unequivocally heterosexual. I have not gone through a nasty divorce, nor have I had any other reason to develop bitterness or distrust of men. The men in my life have been, and are, quite wonderful. I not only do not see women as "poor pitiful creatures", I find that description ludicrous. This thread has not been about promoting women as victims, it has, if anything, reflected their strength and resilience, particularly when dealing with problems of sexual abuse and rape.
So, unlike you, and Hawkeye, and BillRM, I am not personally angry about anything related to this topic and I have no personal ax to grind, and no personal agenda to promote. In fact, the only advocacy I have made in this thread is to support the currently existing sexual assault/rape laws--laws which protect both genders, and laws which protect minors as well as adults. I think it is important for people to know exactly what those laws say because that is how the crime of rape is defined--in the exact wording of those laws. And this thread has served a very useful function in disseminating information--and not propaganda--about the exact wording of the laws. Throughout this thread, I have made it very clear that no sexual assault/rape of anyone is tolerable--all such crimes are wrong, no matter who is the victim. And all such crimes deserve to be punished and stopped.
That you, and Hawkeye, and BillRM have chosen to use this topic to vent your anger toward women, and to wage some sort of vendetta against "feminists" and the "Libby Lobby", who you apparently feel have contributed to the sources of your discontent, has been somewhat baffling because you have all been very vague about exactly who you are talking about, and what these people are actually writing and speaking about. In addition, without any justification, virtually every female posting in this thread has been accused of being a man-hating feminist, as though the three of you are all off on some sort of demented witch hunt. So, that is why, in my mind, the three of you all come off as sounding like every other nutty paranoid conspiracy theorist. In addition, you seem fixated on "feminists" being lesbians, which apparently frees you, as well as Hawkeye and BillRM, to engage in gay-bashing. Although I am not a lesbian, I find your gay-bashing as offensive and hateful as racism, and as repugnant as the sexism which has been abundantly displayed here by the three of you. The women posting in this thread have not displayed anti-male attitudes--we have been talking about rapists, and we have never attributed the behaviors of rapists to men in general. In fact, the only person posting in this thread to even suggest such a connection was Hawkeye, who contended that the tendency to rape was inherent in the "biological wiring" of men, and I disagreed with him about that. So, while I'm sure the three of you have your personal reasons for being angry at women, some of which I can understand, I don't think that in any way excuses the woman-bashing that's gone on in this thread.
Frankly, I don't care if you think I should go to hell, or if Hawkeye thinks I'm "pure evil" or the "scourge of the earth", or if BillRM thinks that calling me a "bitch" gives dogs a bad name. I don't care that the three of you weave fantasies about me in order to justify your insults. If my support of the sexual assault/rape laws provokes that sort of histrionic response, it reflects on the three of you, and your personal obsessions, and it doesn't affect me at all. Nothing the three of you has said has convinced me that those laws are unjust or unfair to anyone. I feel this thread has served a positive purpose and that my time was well spend here.
I certainly can understand your anger about what was done to your daughter by her mother. Child sexual abuse is a tragedy, and I am deeply sorry that your daughter was such a victim. I am also sorry that Child Protective Services or the Police weren't contacted by you at the time you realized something was wrong, when she was 9, so that she might have been better protected from her abuser, and might have received earlier mental health treatment. But, each person makes their own decisions about such matters, and these are difficult issues for families to confront. I am sorry that your child continues to experience considerable problems, and I hope that she will achieve some resolution and sense of peace for herself.
Since you, and Hawkeye, and BillRM, seem to have abandoned all pretense of a rational discussion, and have instead resorted to doing little more than slinging insults, with all the abandon of prepubescent boys engaged in a food fight in their junior high school cafeteria, I'll leave you in peace to continue whining, and complaining, about how women victimize and abuse men, and to continue to egg each other on in bigger and better displays of your sense of self righteous indignation. At this point it's gotten too repetitive and boring to bother listening to.
So, go ahead, enjoy yourselves, be as hateful as you wish. Rant on without further interference or input from me.