I totally respect what you're saying mushy. I for one think it great when someone says the unpopular thing. Yes, other people are always thinking the same when you give your opinion, but don't say anything. Sometimes, once they hear that one brave soul, it gives them the courage to agree out loud.
I have a lot of unpopular opinions about birth, and children. They aren't evil opinions, they just aren't what people are "supposed" to be thinking in this "enlightened" age.
That's what I've always admired about you mushy. You state your opinion, even when it's unpopular, or hard. I can't think of any specifics right now, but I know that on more than 1 occassion, you have changed my mind about something.
I shared this story a while back, so I'll try to make it as short as possible.
There's a rent house across the street from me, with different guys moving in and out over the years. Last year, a guy that had just moved in came over to introduce himself. Seemed like a decent sort (I must say)...nods to Ed Grimley.
Anyway, the 2nd time we had a neighborly sidewalk conversation, it somehow came up that he had, I don't know, 2 sisters and a brother. Then he launched into how he only had one sister now, the other had died.
"Oh, I'm sorry...."
Turns out this one sister had been born when he was only like 10 years old or something, and had lived only a matter of days....
"Oh, I'm sorry....that's sad...."
Here we go....
Mother had been advised to have an abortion early on in the pregnancy, because the fetus "did not have a brain stem" his words, not mine.
She was going to have the pregnancy terminated, but God spoke to her, saying this child would live, yadda yadda yadda.
He went on to say that "none of the doctors, except one, a christian (why was I not surprised to see that coming) could believe the baby was alive"
Well, obviously there was a bit of brain stem, since the heart was getting the message to beat, and deciding to be unpopular, said so.
It was immediately apparant that I was not to have said so, I mean, that was so mean of me to point that out.
Anyway, the baby, if you can call it that, since there was no brain, died shortly after, never having been really alive, and I thought that was incredibly cruel for all parties concerned. That part I didn't say.
The mother figured out later that when God said "this child is going to live" he meant this guy himself, as he later got on drugs and overdosed and everything. He was who God was really talking about, but just happened to say so when the mother was pregnant with this non viable fetus.
Well, I couldn't keep my mouth shut, and asked "If God was talking about you, then it seems your mother put everyone, including your 'sister' through a lot of needless suffering"
He didn't come over to chat again, and of that I'm glad.
I don't know what I'm getting at, except to say it's a case by case situation.
To have that thing without a brain was wrong, IMO.
This little girl? Physical pain aside, she's a thinking human, and based on the syndrome she has, that wasn't the issue really.
I guess the having the power to think makes the difference for me, not the fact you're born with flippers instead of arms.
Then, where does one draw the line as far as thinking ability?
I don't know.
I just don't know.