14
   

need a rich man

 
 
Reply Mon 10 Aug, 2009 01:29 pm
I have always said next time I marry/co-habit it will be a rich man. I have been along the "love" path and every time I am the one doing all the work at the relationship, I am the one trying, I am the one who always loses out. Does everyone always turn into someone you hardly recognise. So next time it will be for money. I believe you can encourage feelings to grow dont they do that anyway, love, etc and so long as you dont actually hate on sight things should develop. So stuff love give me respect every time.
  • Topic Stats
  • Top Replies
  • Link to this Topic
Type: Discussion • Score: 14 • Views: 5,904 • Replies: 66

 
Robert Gentel
 
  1  
Reply Mon 10 Aug, 2009 01:37 pm
@blackwidow,
From Craigslist:

Quote:
What am I doing wrong?

Okay, I'm tired of beating around the bush. I'm a beautiful (spectacularly beautiful) 25 year old girl. I'm articulate and classy. I'm not from New York. I'm looking to get married to a guy who makes at least half a million a year. I know how that sounds, but keep in mind that a million a year is middle class in New York City, so I don't think I'm overreaching at all.

Are there any guys who make 500K or more on this board? Any wives? Could you send me some tips? I dated a business man who makes average around 200 - 250. But that's where I seem to hit a roadblock. 250,000 won't get me to central park west. I know a woman in my yoga class who was married to an investment banker and lives in Tribeca, and she's not as pretty as I am, nor is she a great genius. So what is she doing right? How do I get to her level?

Here are my questions specifically:

- Where do you single rich men hang out? Give me specifics- bars, restaurants, gyms

-What are you looking for in a mate? Be honest guys, you won't hurt my feelings

-Is there an age range I should be targeting (I'm 25)?

- Why are some of the women living lavish lifestyles on the upper east side so plain? I've seen really 'plain jane' boring types who have nothing to offer married to incredibly wealthy guys. I've seen drop dead gorgeous girls in singles bars in the east village. What's the story there?

- Jobs I should look out for? Everyone knows - lawyer, investment banker, doctor. How much do those guys really make? And where do they hang out? Where do the hedge fund guys hang out?

- How you decide marriage vs. just a girlfriend? I am looking for MARRIAGE ONLY

Please hold your insults - I'm putting myself out there in an honest way. Most beautiful women are superficial; at least I'm being up front about it. I wouldn't be searching for these kind of guys if I wasn't able to match them - in looks, culture, sophistication, and keeping a nice home and hearth.

it's NOT ok to contact this poster with services or other commercial interests

PostingID: 432279810

THE ANSWER

Dear Pers-431649184:

I read your posting with great interest and have thought meaningfully about your dilemma. I offer the following analysis of your predicament.

Firstly, I'm not wasting your time, I qualify as a guy who fits your bill; that is I make more than $500K per year. That said here's how I see it.

Your offer, from the prospective of a guy like me, is plain and simple a crappy business deal. Here's why. Cutting through all the B.S., what you suggest is a simple trade: you bring your looks to the party and I bring my money. Fine, simple. But here's the rub, your looks will fade and my money will likely continue into perpetuity... in fact, it is very likely that my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won't be getting any more beautiful!

So, in economic terms you are a depreciating asset and I am an earning asset. Not only are you a depreciating asset, your depreciation accelerates! Let me explain, you're 25 now and will likely stay pretty hot for the next 5 years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins in earnest. By 35 stick a fork in you!

So in Wall Street terms, we would call you a trading position, not a buy and hold... hence the rub... marriage. It doesn't make good business sense to "buy you" (which is what you're asking) so I'd rather lease. In case you think I'm being cruel, I would say the following. If my money were to go away, so would you, so when your beauty fades I need an out. It's as simple as that. So a deal that makes sense is dating, not marriage.

Separately, I was taught early in my career about efficient markets. So, I wonder why a girl as "articulate, classy and spectacularly beautiful" as you has been unable to find your sugar daddy. I find it hard to believe that if you are as gorgeous as you say you are that the $500K hasn't found you, if not only for a tryout.

By the way, you could always find a way to make your own money and then we wouldn't need to have this difficult conversation.

With all that said, I must say you're going about it the right way. Classic "pump and dump."

I hope this is helpful, and if you want to enter into some sort of lease, let me know.
blackwidow
 
  1  
Reply Mon 10 Aug, 2009 02:00 pm
There is more to offer than just looks I do not profess to be stunning however I am loyal, honest, willing to work hard to help in any way I can, I am a excellent cook, child minder, housekeeper, run my own business (started and running with NO support Financial moral or otherwise) from my partner, not a scatty blonde, sopistcated, intellegent, understanding, strong, powerful and just sick of being on the losing end of the deal. So a business deal uncomplicated and crystal clear is what I am looking for.
Mame
 
  1  
Reply Mon 10 Aug, 2009 02:12 pm
@blackwidow,
Well, apparently you've come to the wrong place. Try an upscale bar in an area you want to live.
spendius
 
  0  
Reply Mon 10 Aug, 2009 02:18 pm
@Robert Gentel,
You could try the over 70s. They won't be so concerned about your fade out as your respondent was.
blackwidow
 
  1  
Reply Mon 10 Aug, 2009 02:20 pm
@spendius,
oh really below the belt and cutting a bit caustic ar'nt you
0 Replies
 
blackwidow
 
  1  
Reply Mon 10 Aug, 2009 02:21 pm
@Mame,
bar! dont think so sweetie
0 Replies
 
roger
 
  1  
Reply Mon 10 Aug, 2009 03:19 pm
Surely, it's as easy to fall in love with a rich man as a poor one. Expose yourself to the right pool.
0 Replies
 
roger
 
  3  
Reply Mon 10 Aug, 2009 03:20 pm
@blackwidow,
Unfortunate choice of screen names, I will admit.
blackwidow
 
  1  
Reply Mon 10 Aug, 2009 03:25 pm
@roger,
Trying to be enigmatic ...failing...
blackwidow
 
  1  
Reply Mon 10 Aug, 2009 03:27 pm
@blackwidow,
not really trying to find a rich man ... just saying next time it will be money not love... sound a little bitter dont I
spendius
 
  1  
Reply Mon 10 Aug, 2009 03:29 pm
@blackwidow,
Quote:
Trying to be enigmatic ...failing...


Well you might thinking that eligible $500 Kers are not well used to juicy temptations.
0 Replies
 
Cycloptichorn
 
  1  
Reply Mon 10 Aug, 2009 03:35 pm
@blackwidow,
blackwidow wrote:

not really trying to find a rich man ... just saying next time it will be money not love... sound a little bitter dont I


I guess I'm confused. If you're looking for money, and you find a guy with money, and he's looking for love, won't the two of you be looking for completely different things?

Hard to see a relationship moving forward like that

Cycloptichorn
blackwidow
 
  1  
Reply Mon 10 Aug, 2009 03:39 pm
@Cycloptichorn,


Love can be nurtured and grown
Cycloptichorn
 
  1  
Reply Mon 10 Aug, 2009 03:45 pm
@blackwidow,
blackwidow wrote:



Love can be nurtured and grown


Yeah, but it usually does so in an environment where that is what both are looking for.

It seems you are addressing several problems here - when you state in your initial post that people 'change' and that you end up being 'the one who is doing all the work' - are these financial problems? If not, it's hard to see how a rich guy would help.

Cycloptichorn
0 Replies
 
ebrown p
 
  1  
Reply Mon 10 Aug, 2009 03:51 pm


blackwidow
 
  1  
Reply Mon 10 Aug, 2009 03:54 pm
@ebrown p,
doing all the work in the Relationship and getting no help financially, physically, mentally, emotionally you name it ... It may well be my fault but you just get tired of trying and would just like a easier life sometimes
ebrown p
 
  1  
Reply Mon 10 Aug, 2009 04:15 pm
@blackwidow,
Your username is interesting in this context.

A Black Widow spider is generally known for feeding on the blood of her mate.
roger
 
  2  
Reply Mon 10 Aug, 2009 04:22 pm
@ebrown p,
That's called Child Support, Brown.
blackwidow
 
  1  
Reply Mon 10 Aug, 2009 04:30 pm
@ebrown p,
Actually the black widow practice is Sexual cannibalism is a special case of cannibalism in which a female kills and consumes a male of the same species before, during, or after copulation.
 

Related Topics

 
  1. Forums
  2. » need a rich man
Copyright © 2019 MadLab, LLC :: Terms of Service :: Privacy Policy :: Page generated in 0.03 seconds on 10/21/2019 at 11:45:19