Is this cheating?

Oh God don't do that. Yeesh. That is a dumb idea in the history of dumb ideas.

Whether we say it's cheating or not, it's your wife who is the ultimate arbiter here, now, isn't it? I mean, what are ya gonna say? Honey, those people on the Internet, who had nothing to lose -- they said it was fine!

Besides, you honestly think you'll be able to look and not touch? You honestly think this other gal is gonna strip for you and not want something in return, or threaten to tell your wife?

Sheesh, think, man!

Porn is one thing, it's impersonal and remote. Your wife may or may not be okay with it (see this site, just hit up porn or cheating as tags in the tag search field); lots of wives aren't but your wife might be okay with it. But a gal in person? And in your house? And not five feet away from you?

Are ya on crack?

Yeah, that's blunt, but really, this is an amply stupid idea.

I saw your other thread as well.

are you sure you're growed up enough for marriage?

seriously.

If you want to just see naked boobies and not touch, look at some porn or go to a strip club.

Thanks. I need that verbal lashing to get my head straight. Just have to have will power. Tough love. Thank you....

Don't listen to them! Ask her if you can jerk off over her tits.

God, you're such a pig. What are you doing on this site, anyway?

I think contrex was being sarcastic, Mame.

Not if you've been reading him this morning.

Wow I mean...WOW! Crazy dude. Mame is right...strip club it.

By all means, make sure you take pictures. Just one or two mind you.

Your wife will be sure to find them if you take more than that.

That's right Dave. When you're out wives go through your pockets, examine your kit and look under the mattress and carpet corners. I'm surprised chai has clued you in.

What you want is a garden shed or better still an allotment. And don't forget the bank account nobody knows about.

Absolutely.

If you care about your wife and your marriage and it's something you would not want her to know about...don't do it.

When you got married, your pledge of fidelity wasn't conditional was it? You didn't tell your wife that you would be faithful as long as you didn't start wondering what sex with another woman might be like. Did you?

One thing I've learned in my life so far is to never underestimate the ability of people to rationalize anything.

Extra-marital sex (which this is) is pretty easy to rationalize. You know you love your wife and that having a sexual experience with another woman doesn't diminish that love. It wouldn't mean anything right? What she doesn't know, never happened and will never hurt her.

If you're set on doing this, go all the way. Why take the risk for just a peek?
And you know that your plan has been to actually have sex with the bare breasted lady and then tell yourself "It just happened!"

If you do it though, just admit to yourself that you've betrayed your wife, and live with whatever psychic pain that fact might cause. Don't make the mistake of thinking that you can make it alright by confessing. That may somehow make you feel better, but it will be the second time you ignored your wife's feelings in favor of satisfying an urge, and this time it will hurt her.

Oh, this is what you meant by "keep your marriage." Maybe.

Agreed with Jes.

To quote the famed American, Bugs Bunny, " What a maroon!"

David Johnsoon: I hope you keep abreast of all this.

He's a boob.

You might as well say it, He's Addcited to Love:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F0U5JfGYx4c

I understand where you're coming from Mame. Anybody who doesn't fall in with your plans is obviously a boob. It's what Xanthippe was all about so it's hardly breaking news.

i agree, thats not the rite thing to do