how much do u think a lazy eye effects your dating success?

That's the key - not particularly charisma- it could be anything that is positive about you. Work on and develop that, to the point that anything that you or someone else might perceive to be a 'weakness' sort of fades into the background.

I think it's unrealistic to try to pretend that we dont all have aesthetic preferences. We do. I don't think I've ever thought one way or the other about a lazy eye - but I have to admit- I've never been particularly physically attracted to extremely overweight men.

Well yesterday, this family of four very overweight people came in to eat, two grandparent age people and a couple about my age. They were all pretty big people - to the point that I thought there were five of them and I was all set to get another chair, which I informed them I would do.
The son-in-law says, 'no,, no, we have enough chairs - there're only four of us - we're just all so big, we look like five people...'
He starts laughing, I start laughing....then they eat and we start talking about where they're from...London...the fact that his grandfather was a fireman in London during the blitz....and he's giving all of this really interesting but little known historical information, but continually paying attention to and interrupting himself and the others so that the quiet little father-in-law who has a speech impediment can have everyone's attention and the time and silence to have his say and be heard.

Anyway...lovely, lovely guy. And by the end of the conversation, I could see why his wife married him: he's kind, interesting, intelligent, funny. What the hell are a few pounds in exchange for all that?
I think you could think of your lazy eye in the same way, maybe.
Although I know when you feel self-conscious about something, and it's the focus for you yourself, you think it's the focus for everyone else.
The truth is, if there's anything more interesting about a person to focus on - most people will and do.

I had a boss with a lazy eye. Very sharp man. Perhaps too sardonic, that might have been a personality reaction. Anyway, he was/is a fascinating person, well worth knowing.

I don't get why you don't check this out, Ogi. There are clinics, and specific eye exercises might help - you could be evaluated. A few minutes of the right exercise could be better than some obliteratathon game.

on college,easy answer.

one of those things i have no control over that effects me.

maybe im neurotic, maybe its real.

im not 24 yet.

:O

The years go by fast, Ogi. Don't squander them.

I would rather have a guy with a lazy eye, than one with an eye patch and me wondering if there was an eye under there at all.....lol

Ogionik - there's a related problem in precision shooting: most people are right handed but many have the left eye as dominant, so they must train to cross over (patch on shooting glasses required). Probably better for you that computer games - I don't know how focused you're in a bar hopping situation, but concentration on a pistol firing line tends to be intense.


http://pistol-training.com/archives/433

...and....


http://www.recguns.com/Sources/VIIIA3.html

Good luck.

is it weird i can switch eye is dominant?
or maybe its my lazy eye just reconfiguring itself..
i cant explain it.

i can switch which eye i am..

umm...

pretty much i can switch which eye i am focusing through?...
i want to say its my lazy eye being "centered" but i can switch between which eye i want to be dominant..

ive always thought it was weird..

maybe im left eye dominant but my brain has trained my right eye to fulfill that..

I am blind in one eye, my other one gets a little lazy if I'm tired or stressed (people have noticed before), and it never held me back while dating, not even a little.

Cycloptichorn

Go to a shooting range, ask for an instructor. Whatever you do, don't show up drunk, or acting strangely - there's no allowance for psychobabbling around guns - just speak to the instructor calmly. Right- or left-handed with the opposite eye dominant is a common problem in precision shooting, I'm sure they can refer you to a specialist, doctor or optician - the latter probably better for starters as he wouldn't charge anything for checking your existing glasses.

This is important, so I'll repeat it: don't act strangely in shooting ranges, hefty characters will pin down your arms instantly, push you down on the floor, and the heftiest of them all is going to sit on your stomach until you've had a chance to explain your activities. Somewhat drastic, as sports clubs go, but shooting is the only sport where there has never been a death during competition, so obviously the system works. Good luck