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Bad mood bashing

 
 
BorisKitten
 
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Reply Mon 11 May, 2009 08:20 pm
@chai2,
Why what a Great Person you are, Chai2, to think of others when your own situation is so very difficult!

Yep, virtually all of my siblings 'fessed up to "blood on the walls," rape (male or female), verbal abuse, you name it, it happened.

The Very Good Bit is, I've forgiven my mother (after many, many years of Hating Her Intensely) for her failings.

I communicate with her via email ONLY. I do not want to see her.

She seems, with only ME (youngest of 5) to talk to her, pathetically grateful for this minimal contact.

I even sent her a Mom's Day present, a little make-up kit (since we share this love of Women's Toys) and she Loved It.

In my opinion, she has now paid for her "sins." 3 of her 5 children are dead (suicide, auto accident, AIDS).

With only one of us (me) in contact with her at all, and NO grandchildren... she's become, at 78 yrs old, rather kind, even interested in her "grand-pets."

It's pathetic.

Should I see her on her death-bed, I will tell her I forgive her for everything, and actually mean it. (It will help me as much as her.)

My family taught me, unknowing, so much about what NOT to do with my life, I can only be grateful.
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chai2
 
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Reply Mon 11 May, 2009 08:20 pm
@BorisKitten,
47 is vastly superior to 27.
ossobuco
 
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Reply Mon 11 May, 2009 08:21 pm
@BorisKitten,
I'm not pushing you to wine, so not my business, nothing I would push, I was riffing on the commercial thing re est est est. Which always reminded me of eh! which is a word canadians seem to like, although I doubt the italian est was about that.

I get a kick out of mixing them up. Ignore me, I'm trouble.

BorisKitten
 
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Reply Mon 11 May, 2009 08:27 pm
@chai2,
Ya know, I always thought I'd be happier after 40 than I was before, even when I was 17-18 and suffering horribly.

It's funny, but I imagined I'd be, oh, rich, or famous, or something like that, but I was dead wrong about that bit!

I'm just older, calmer, wiser, and, well, happier.

I'm not flat-broke, but I'm not rich either.

I'm happy with the little birds and squirrels at the feeder/bath every day, and my baby-pets. I think I have it Really Good. If that's crazy, that's OK with me.
chai2
 
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Reply Mon 11 May, 2009 08:28 pm
@BorisKitten,
I'd love to chat more, but I'm off to the arms of Morpheus.

until tomorrow...
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BorisKitten
 
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Reply Mon 11 May, 2009 08:30 pm
@ossobuco,
Quote:
Ignore me, I'm trouble.

Oh, sweetie, you're never trouble! You're one of the many A2K'ers who taught me that people can, in fact, be good, smart, and wise... all at the same time!

Sorry, I know nothing of commercials, not having TV these past 10 years. And so much happier for it!
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ossobuco
 
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Reply Mon 11 May, 2009 08:31 pm
Finally shutting up in the face of much greater smarts.
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OmSigDAVID
 
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Reply Tue 12 May, 2009 02:38 am
@BorisKitten,
BorisKitten wrote:

Yeah, well, about that God/Light bit, I'm sorry to forward my brother's report on his being dead for 15 minutes and being brought back to life (in a hospital):

He told me being dead was EXACTLY like a dreamless sleep. It was, he said, easy.

The hard part, he said, was waking up afterward, and feeling all the pain. While "dead," he saw and felt nothing at all.

He is now truly dead. At the time, however (12 yrs ago) he was in a hospital with AIDS-related pneumonia (forgot the med. term), and really did die for that amount of time.

God did not call to him, lead him anywhere, show him the light, or reveal anything to him... Not even a handy tunnel, much less Jesus Christ on Wheels.

I strongly suspect that my own death experience (may it be far in the future) will be much the same. No bells, whistles, lights, or revelations.

Just a dead, unresponsive body, being cremated or buried in a nice pine box, dreamlessly sleeping for all eternity.

David, I envy your experience. Never felt anything like it. Not even close.

It was an emotional experience; even just remembering it is.
I had a client in the 1980s, a rather earthy, rugged construction manager,
who commented that when he was in the hospital for surgery
to his back, he saw a White Light up near the ceiling of his room
in the hospital the day before that surgery, with whom he had a
conversation. He reported being told that the next day woud be
his last on Earth, to which he responded that he did not believe
that his wife coud keep his teenage boy out of jail without his help.
He said that this argument convinced the Being of LIght
to relent and he survived the surgery.

In 2005, I had abdominal surgery. I was told that I "bottomed out"
during that surgery. I was not able to get a straight answer
qua whether that meant that I died or not; anyway,
I only remember awakening in the I.C.U. I 've heard a statistic
that 66% of people who r revived from death in hospitals only remember awakening.

Some of them have had multiple deaths and remember some of them,
but not others. I 've had a few (very short) out-of-body-experiences,
which I liked, so I feel assured of my not being limited
to the existence of my material body.





David
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chai2
 
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Reply Wed 13 May, 2009 08:43 pm
ooooohhh kaaaayy....

gall bladder surgery on friday.
ossobuco
 
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Reply Wed 13 May, 2009 08:49 pm
@chai2,
OK, we'll deal.

(various swear words)

J
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OmSigDAVID
 
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Reply Thu 14 May, 2009 12:39 am
@chai2,
chai2 wrote:

Quote:
ooooohhh kaaaayy....

gall bladder surgery on friday.

Good Luck !
jespah
 
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Reply Thu 14 May, 2009 03:55 am
@OmSigDAVID,
Best to you and Wally -- this is at least a focused thing that's happening, if that makes any sense.
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Izzie
 
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Reply Thu 14 May, 2009 04:08 am
@chai2,
ohhhhhhhhhh kaaaaaaaaay

yep.... now you know one thing you're dealing with - little step forward.

hope you managing some yoga and some sleep gal. Hugs.

<sitting up, brew is brewing, waits for news>
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sozobe
 
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Reply Thu 14 May, 2009 06:10 am
@chai2,
Is that a core issue, like it'll solve some stuff? Or just a little aside in the middle of the mess?

And what a mess... take care.
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Eva
 
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Reply Thu 14 May, 2009 08:27 am
@chai2,
chai2 wrote:

ooooohhh kaaaayy....

gall bladder surgery on friday.


I presume you mean your husband, not you?

I'm just finishing the school year...haven't been around here much for the last couple of weeks. Trying to catch up. Man, you've really been through the mill, Chai. Sorry I wasn't here to listen, but I am now.
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Joeblow
 
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Reply Fri 15 May, 2009 06:04 am
@chai2,
chai2 wrote:

ooooohhh kaaaayy....

gall bladder surgery on friday.


Today.

~~~~~~

Fcuking Celine. Mental b*tchslap.
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ehBeth
 
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Reply Fri 15 May, 2009 10:12 am
@chai2,
like today Friday?

ooooohhhh kaaaayy
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