@oralloy,
Quote:That is incorrect. It is a fact that, having established himself as a menace, the only way for him to remove the menace was to withdraw.
Which is still your opinion, and a flawed one at that, as I later explained - there are multiple ways for the threat to diminish without him having to withdraw:
- her recognising the threat didn't exist
- her asking herself why he was so reasonable, calm, and recording
- her engaging in conflict management
Handled correctly, they could even have shook hands before they parted ways (ie. there would have been no menace before they parted ways)
Quote:The differences are not meaningful.
Not if you want an one eye, black & white view of things (yes, pun intended). They are very meaningful to any rational decision making, and to how you handle such a confrontation:
- mild threat (talk a person down); threat to life (consider options); threat to life with a gun (run for your life or fight for your life). Degree affects decision making - always
- recognise threat diminishing - can modify how you handle things
- handle things well with many threats, and you will find any of: no threat existing, misunderstanding, commonality, threat is clarified, compromise, agreement etc
Quote:That's just not realistic after a stranger acts like he did in a secluded area of a park.
It is entirely realistic - he engaged in no threatening behaviour on the video and was very rational and calm - there was
every chance for her to talk and clarify things. Just because people no longer take responsibility for managing their own conflicts, does not make it unrealistic. The methods I mentioned are what normal, rational, people who solve their own problems do - they talk to make sure they have a clear understanding.
Your mental gymnastics to justify your opinions are really quite amazing. Perhaps its because you appear to want to deal with everything through threat of a gun / have little conflict management skill? You certainly show every sign of having poor conflict management skills if you don't follow how this could have turned out very differently (with her understanding no threat existed)
