Rest in peace, Mom

Tomorrow is/was my mother's birthday. She would have been 98. She died in 2003. It gets easier, but it doesn't get easy.

When I realized the date and how we used to celebrate birthdays, I thought of you, Mac, and what you're going through now.

I think I said it before, but it bears repeating. Be kind to yourself.

Thank you, Boida.

Happy birthday to your mom today! How did you celebrate birthdays?

Always gifts, a cake with candles, and singing. ALWAYS. Always a major event.

Hey Mac - hope you have managed to sleep a little - another week passes and I bet you are real tired with emotions playing havoc right now. Thinking of you - hugging you (((((((((((((((((mac))))))))))))))))

You're right, Iz, it's nice to have a quiet weekend, but I think everything's catching up with me because I have enough time to think.

Yeah Mac - thing is, when you have time to think it hits home harder and the emotions can sometimes spiral then - which is all part of the grieving process - but is so, so hard. It's finding a balance to occupy and busy yourself with what needs to be done and allowing yourself to the time to grieve in whatever way is the right way for you.

Thinking of you and just wishing you restful sleep and some peace. Take care hun. Hugs. x

How ya doing Mac???? Thinking of you.x

Hi. Just a note to say I am looking in at this thread from time to time. Like many other a2k people, continuing the best wishes.

Thanks guys. I'm doing okay mostly. A little conflict among the sibs, but I think we'll work it out.

I had a dream last week. I thought it was about my mom for various reasons, but then I came around a corner and there was my dad. Just as I hugged him, I woke up. All kinds of stuff in there to think about. Isn't it weird how your subconscience is working through things all by itself?

How fascinating. I think dreams do more for us than we know. Hope things are going all right for you.

Hey Mac

how're ya doin' hun?

((((hugging ya)))) x

I'm doing great, Izzie, thanks for asking.

Work is stressful, but everything else is flowing along.

Oh - that is good news Mac and great to hear (other than work) - glad that you are doing better and keeping your chin up. Hope you are looking forward to the summer and maybe taking some time off, for a bit, from work. Love to you gal. x

Glad to read this.

Im looking for help in dealing with the loss of my mother as well. It came about frm a traumatic event and then a long painful process. We were best friends and I had to do this completely alone. So many of the people Ive loved have died.

Welcome to A2K Bluangel.

It may be a good idea to start your own thread and tell us a little about the difficulties you have gone through and perhaps, those with similar experiences, may be able to offer some advice.

So sorry for your loss. I can only imagine how difficult it must be to lost a parent and a best friend at the same time. There is nothing worse than being, feeling alone. Please do talk if you wish - even if you don't have any answers - someone may have been through similar emotions and could listen and maybe give you some coping mechanims.

Take good care of yourself.