Djjd, I had to reply to your post because it has such a special meaning for me.
Having left a very unhappy marriage of 34 years (yes, I'm a slow learner), along came the cowboy and I was back in the saddly again, so to speak). I sure that was way too much information for you, but songs about moonlight just don't do it for me the way that one does.
And yes, he might be adverse to a hug, but a hug he will get, from you and all his friends, gentle hugs that is. Adverse, cantankerous, he really loves you all, and don't believe him if he gets on and denys it all.