A good cry on the train

I also want to say that I'm glad that I'm not the only one who cries at kindness. Not too long ago I had a particularly stressful time at the airport at like 6:00 in the morning. I hadn't had enough sleep, and everything was a road block, and everyone was nasty. But then one guy in security saw my face and gave me kindness and I cried all the way to the gate.

Yeah, Joe, that's grief - let it happen, it's better that way. You live it and you cleanse; you deny it, it remains.

I'm sorry you're feeling this way, too , especially because of the reason. Hugs to you. Everyone is right - you're among some great friends here who'll help you through it.

Aw jeez, Joe. That's terrible. So sorry.. <sighs>

ni (like the others, cant imagine why someone would leave you, such a kind & wise soul) mh

I can assure you that grieving a relationship is perfectly normal.

One can grieve all kinds of things.

Ah, Joe Nation, so sorry......

Joe, what can I say? You're going through a rough time, and we are here for you.

Well, hell.
I was wondering what had you off your feed the other day, and I guess this was
it. Yeah, it's grief all right. Grief, pain of loss, and I'm sure a big dose of
frustration. I'll be thinking of you and hoping you get through this okay.
Hang in.

Very sorry to hear it Joe..... truly.

I'm very sorry, Joe.

There are few things that bother me more than to see a friend suffer. Hang in there, brother. It doesn't seem like it now, but the pain will diminish and the sun will break through the clouds.

Gus(I wonder if that last sentence should be on the Bulwer-Lytton thread) Ratzenhofer

So sorry you have to go through this, Joe!

If it would make you feel better to hit the Central Park loop together sometime on the weekend -- anytime.

Joe(usually stoic)Nation, Hang in there, buddy. It's my humble opinion that the sequence of your grief is proper - because sooner is better than later. As gus said, time will heal this event. Take care of yourself, and spend time with your friends.

Comiseration from here, Joe.

(you know what Miss Noddy would say...)

sorry , joe !
(hope can you take it like charlie brown and get up again from the kick ! )
hbg

Oof.
What nimh said.
I've been there in the same situation. I cried at the beach (that damned sun), not so much from someone's kindness but for a place to let it go. Did that on a lot of my walks for a while. So much water at the shore.
Let it go, let it go, keep letting it go (and hold your dominion..)

Actually, I just posted this and walked in to the kitchen to get coffee. Started crying with you.

edgar(been there, done that, Joe)blythe
here for you

Oh Joe, I wonder if you actually realize how loved you are on a2k? Just because some of us don't post often doesn't mean we don't respect and care for you.

You are grieving. Grief is real and divorce is a part of your life that has died. Of course you grieve. In fact, you will most likely go through the (how many?) stages of grief. Let it happen, there is no better way to move on with your life.

Also, when the hurt is almost too much to bear, try to think of us on a2k who care so much and who are crying along with you. I think, in one way or another, we've all been there and our empathy is an understanding that goes deep.

Six.

1. Denial
2. Anger
3. Bargaining
4. Sadness
5. Acceptance
6. Bitter, bitter hatred


(I've modified it a bit, because of what I've read online.)

Aw Joe, sweetheart, don't you know you're not only a good person but also an inspiring person? Don't you know you're one of the people who convinced me that it's worth it to take care of myself? Don't you know that you convince other people of that, and more, every single day?

Your torch isn't just a flicker, it's a flame.

We are here for you and we care.

jes(I can't run much but I can walk with you; let's go up the big hill)pah

For Joe (who I have fought with all these years but who has never lost his sense of humor or a chance to be supportive) Nation, let us cry with you until the sun comes out again. It doesn't help the pain now, but it always does.