Get a good, mean lawyer.
Well, that's easy to say, but what's the point? I'm constantly amazed at the number of folks who think a bulldog approach is always best. Maybe it is, maybe it's not. What's the advantage of having a lawyer who is adept at belittling the opposing side? Often, that's the lawyer who would prefer to go to trial rather than just resolve the issues. Why not get a good lawyer who can advocate the client's position, yet at the same time maintain good and effective communication with the opposing party and his/her counsel, in order to foster agreement and perhaps a resolution that does not include litigation?
Of course you don't want a milquetoast ... the lawyer needs to have a spine.
But, yes ... get a good lawyer.
do I have to sell to him because he has the funds?.Can I stay here and he pay the mortgage? He has been spending thousands on his girlfriend and not giving me any money,we are not divorced yet,should he be supporting me until I get back on my feet?
No, you do not need
to sell to him because he has the funds. Yes, you can stay there and he can pay the mortgage. Or, you can stay there and he pays you spousal maintenance (which you use to pay the mortgage), until you get back on your feet. (It certainly sound like you have a good chance of receiving alimony/spousal maintenance.) Or, you sell the house, and you divide the equity (if any). If he's been spending money on the girlfriend, perhaps you can claim for "marital waste," since the money he spent on her did not go to benefit the marriage, and get that money back from him. (This is a question for you to ask your lawyer.)