@confusedtina,
I don't believe you can't get a divorce. Are you still living together? Why not just move out or stay away and not discuss reconciliation with him? Why the urgency for the divorce?
Often one of the separated parties will find another partner, which makes them more eager for the divorce. Why not just wait him out?
I'm not clear on how the divorce wasn't granted just because one of the parties said they didn't want it.
Can you move to another state where you could get one more easily?
Also, why not see a lawyer? Legal Aid or Public Defender or whatever they call it where you live. Surely you qualify.