Anorexic Looking Woman at Work - Pregnant

and we need to know that...why? what feedback are you looking for cjhsa?

None. I'm surprised at what this generated.

She just looks funny. Wish I could post a pic.

And she's shrinking too! You had her at 5'10 in your first post.

Must be the bowling ball she ate.

I was a lot like you Aidan with my first. I didn't get huge - you could tell I was pregnant, but I actually gained the minimum (not on purpose just what naturally happened) of the range my doctor said I should gain. I think it was 25 pounds. The doctor never gave an estimate of the size baby they thought I would have, but afterwards the doctor was surprised. She thought I would have a much smaller baby based on my weight gain and size. The baby was ounce shy of being 8 pounds.

I was also warned of the calcium issue as I do not regularly drink milk - hate the stuff. So instead I was encouraged to eat lots of cheese (which I love) and the doctor even said I could have ice cream every day. Loved my doctor.

none? interesting. usually people do expect responses when they post on an online forum.

I didn't expect the responses that I got....

Sorry if you missed that minor detail.

i asked what you expected, not what you didn't expect. sorry if you missed that minor detail.

Are you trying to get my thread locked with your trolling?

i am not the one insulting people. nothing in my responses warranties locking your thread.

just saying you get what you give.

Huh? Can someone translate?

I don't speak angry slovakian female.

it's slovak, not slovakian. not surprised at your response though... i'm used to you not being able to answer many of my questions. it's a pattern.

Oh FU you are just trolling. You didn't ask me anything worth answering.

abbreviations don't buy you a ticket to use profanity. just to let you know i reported you.

Ditto.

ok, not wanting to start up the childish banter between at least two members again, I'm going to attempt to relate an event from yesterday.

Keep in mind, before all you good mothers on A2K come to tell your stories of how you didn't gain much weight, gained too much, etc....I'm NOT talking about a normal woman who may be naturally thin, or a woman who of normal size who doesn't gain a lot of weight, but both are obviously healthy looking themselves, a pretty good indicator the fetus is getting enough nourishment.

So, yeah, I "get" all your stories about how you only gained 19 pounds, or the dr. said X, or you knew this was normal for you because of Y.

I'm not talking about someone's co-worker, who I've never seen.

Got it?

ok, moving on....

I had a really interesting conversation yesterday, one that was not initiated by me. But you'll see in a moment why I decided to bring this up here.

Yesterday I went to a luncheon for someone who was leaving the company. I ended up sitting at a table with 5 RN's, 3 of which I've known for years, the other 2 for just a few months. 1 man, 4 women.

One of the nurses, one I've just know for a short while, is about 6 and a half months pregnant. (BTW, all of them have children) She was right next to me. At one point she said "hrmmpphhh" and pushed on the top of her abdomen, saying "I've been getting these sharp pains here, good thing I'm seeing my dr. tomorrow." I asked her "are you ok?"

"oh yeah, otherwise I'm fine. It's just hard to eat right now"

From this, 2 other nurses commented about their early pregnancy morning sickness. One of them said she had lost a lot of weight at first, but (as we all knew) that's not an immediate sign for alarm.

She then said, and I quote..."Of course I finally started to gain weight, but not a lot. I had to remember that my body was not my own then."

I swear to God I didn't push it, so I'm not embellishing....I did ask, to everyone as a whole "Do you really feel that way when you're pregnant?"

The women all nodded, another one saying "Oh yeah, you're body's just being used by the baby."



So, at this point, I said "you know, I was having a conversation with some people before, and about what if you knew someone who obviously wasn't taking care of themselves, starving herself, drugs, all that, and the question was what should someone who knows that person do, beyond talking to that person, or should anything be said at all"

Without a seconds hesitation, the pregnant nurse said "I would immediatly call CPS"

I asked why, what good would it do, since the baby wasn't born yet.

She apparantly knew the law and said. "If you call CPS they can and will go in and visist the mother. If they find cause, they will follow that mother's case until the baby is born. In fact they will try to be there when the baby is born so they can immediately assess the situation, and if need be they will remove the child"

The male nurse nodded saying "I used to work in neonatal, and I've seen that happen. I've seen 16 year old girls coming in to give birth to their 5th child, drug addicts, all that. The authorities will be right there if they can."

so, if the authorities are right there if they can be, obviously someone had the sense to get involved.

At least now I don't feel crazy for saying I'd freaking do something if I suspected a problem.

That's all well and good, Chai. Unfortunately the title of this thread isn't "Coworker abusing drugs while pregnant". It's about a skinny woman who cjhsa deems "anorexic-looking" -- "looking" being the operative word. I am not able to diagnose someone with an eating disorder by looking them and I doubt he is either. So I stand by my original reply -- none of anyone's business.

If you lump failure to eat well in with abusing drugs while pregnant then you get all sorts of strange interventionist ideas. I can't go down that road with you.

Since when does the thread end up talking about what exactly the thread title is after a page or two any?

Screw the title of the thread. Obviously the initiator was just prodding to get reactions. I'm morphing into a more serious matter beyond looks.

Again, I have never said, "failure to eat", as in I'm sick, and under a doctors care, or "I just don't gain a lot of weight when pregnant, but I'm obviously healthy and nourish the fetus."

You will note I use the words "Starving herself" Someone literally anorexic and starving themselves, meaning not giving adequate nutrition to the fetus as evidenced by her looking like death warmed over for an extended period, and observance of her not eating for extended periods knowing it is not merely morning sickness or related matter, is a cause for concern.

Why is it you insist on thinking I'm talking about someone who is merely thin, or, for a period, is experiencing difficulty?

I didn't think I could say it more cleary than I have.

At least someone realized I made no attempt to diagnose anything.

I know I am setting myself up here but you all know cjhsa...he likes reactions. He simply said the woman looks funny because she is so tall and thin with a baby bump, and that he hoped she was taking care of herself. I did not find it that offensive...his post (though I am not sure why he felt like sharing) got an immediate reaction and we all gave our 2 cents worth on why it is okay or not okay and whether we should or shouldn't or what we did or didn't.

I can't see that one person here was actually out of line in their own thinking. It was their own point of view. What they would do IF they felt someone was being uncaring. Though as an aside I personally felt the whole subject morphed into an incredibly baffling thread since I feel there is such a fine line between this and abortion and comes amazingly close to what is your own business and someone elses and government intervention where it really is not its business...got very muddled for me there. But I avoided that observation - because I know what I believe.

But I am with cjhsa here in that it is surprising the amount of posts this has generated and how it got a little heated. Very odd that two different sets of folks got riled over it. Because ultimately it is just a quite empty observation. No teeth...nothing really that interesting about it.

Of course except for my post - which was and still is fascinating.