JustBrooke wrote:hawkeye10 wrote:
when she was younger my wife ( a smart blond) felt the same way, but fighting constantly upstream gets exhausting. Now she plays the part when it will work to her advantage.
Yeah, I can understand that. And when you put it that way....I guess if society is gonna label us, we might as well get something out of it. I can't say that I haven't used "being female" to get out of tickets when I get pulled over for speeding. Works like a charm. :wink: All you have to do is smile and be nice. Cops are pretty easy.
You know, that sort of stuff is where I put an absolute limit.....or did when I was young and gorgeous enough to do it.
If you believe in equality, in my view you don't do that stuff.
I can well understand wanting to get something out of being labelled, but I do think that as long as women do that, then we are shooting ourselves in the foot.
This is not meant to be a criticism of you personally, but part of a debate about the meaning and effect of using essentially negative stereotypes (dumb and easy) in our lives.
That being said, I am finding myself thinking about a dear friend of mine who is uber-blonde.......natural platinum, with long hair, and the "blonde-effect".
If that is what is happening...
This woman is unusual looking...with a big nose (Polish Jewish daddy....who nearly died in Auschwitz), perfectly nice body, so pale she is nearly albino (no lashes unless she has mascara).......and (at 53) she still knocks men over as though they have been pole-axed......it's a source of great humour amongst her numerous women friends.
Now, is this the blonde-ness, or the fact that she is an extremely clever woman, highly successful and beloved in her work, with a delightfully kind and compassionate nature, great wit, wonderful knowledge of literature, art etc., a gloriously playful sense of humour, adores sex, (and men) dresses with great style, and, despite being very self-obsessed, is a person of great integrity and delight with a loyalty to those she cares about that is mother-lion like?
She has a number of what I assume to be blonde-stereotype characteristics........can't change a light-bulb, is blind but won't wear her glasses, (this makes one look delightfully ditzy), terrified of insects, can't cook......but this isn't affectation, this is HER.
But, did it become her because everyone adored her, and gave her a pass? And, if they did, was it because she is such a lovely person, or because she is a "blonde"? Or is it a Jewish Princess thing?
Almost all (except the nasty ones) of her exes are still close friends, and form a team to support and care for her ( I call it X and the travelling exes). They build stuff, are always there when she is distressed, guide and advise and love her.
We have discussed this "helpless" role....and her response is that she gives them at least as much as she gets.......emotional support, financial support when they need it, the usual quid pro quo of friendship, and I cannot argue, because she is, indeed, a great friend.
I wonder where this all fits in the blonde stereotype stuff?
