Black Tulip ~ what an excellent thing to do, shouting & snowball fights on the moors. Kudos for that!
I read the posts regarding drugs with some dismay, although I have a lot of respect for the posters, because I'm essentially anti-drug. That's my bias, and I may or may not be right in it. But my premise is that you are not sick, you are in grief. It's a whole different thing. This kind of deep grief is a process that you must go through, and I'm so sorry that you do. I have seen new widows opt for the drugs and some, admittedly, have benefitted. But many more have had indifferent or even bad results.
Think twice. It's just one of the many, many decisions that just 2 weeks ago didn't even exist for you. And it comes at a time when the existence of a god seems as perplexing as which socks to put on in the morning. It's unbelievable. But baby steps, small incremental decisions, will take you through it. And, despite what I said about the anti-depressants, I'm a big proponent of professional grief counselling. It depends on you, and to a smaller extent on your friends & family support.
Quote:How Right you are but life seems so difficult at the moment people say it will get better I am not sure I want it to.
I understand this. It's a feeling that "better" is a betrayal -- of your husband and what happened to him, of your love -- that "better" is a diminution of this cataclysmic thing that happened to you. It's a feeling that will come and go.