Gala wrote:Mame wrote: In some companies I've worked for, we never even had a Christmas party, much less a bonus. She should be grateful to have a job.
No, they ought to be grateful they have me. This attitude of "should" and being grateful to have a job is utter bull. It's okay to ask for things in a job if you feel you've been short-changed. You may not get what you want, but it's important to let it be known.
I can live without the X-mas party and the dinners.
Herein lies the rub.
We have 2 camps here, the "you should be grateful to have a job" and the "I give them my time and my talents, and should be awarded accordingly" sectors.
There is of course an overlapping. I'll be the first to admit I'm happy to have my particular job. But they are happy to have me. Could I be replaced? Sure, but not that easily. Actually, I'm mentoring someone to step up when I decide to leave. But that's another story.
When someone says "you shouldÂ…." They're really telling you you're not doing it right, and "should" do what they would do, or at least have the same feelings about it.
Apropos to the season, telling me I "should be grateful to have a job, and be happy to get the $50" reminds me of Ebenezer Scrooge being so kind as to give Bob Crackett half a day off at Christmas.
Ebenezer, as we all know, had plenty of money, just didn't want to part with it.
And Bob had some self esteem issues thinking he was worth so little.
