Quote:What makes you so sure that a separation would be fatal to your marriage?
Would you date someone that you know doesn't bathe from thursday to monday, won't keep their teeth in, dresses like a slob anytime they are alone with you (dream on about nice hair and/or makeup) and doesn't seem to really want sex at all anymore?
I would love to be married to the woman I was married to for the first fifteen plus years. Sadly she has been replaced by this slob who couldn't care less what I think or desire. Strangely enough, she cares what other people think. They get her 'A' game and I get no game at all.
Everybody thinks I have this great good looking wife when, in fact, THEY have a great good looking friend at work and I have a fat smelly toothless slob that won't even try at home.
I'm glad I came here and wrote this - It made me look at my situation from an outside perspective and pretty much cemented what had been flickering in the back of my mind.
It's okay Mame and Jpb. It wasn't completely your advice that convinced me. Like you said I came here looking for validation and I found it - in reading my own writings.
This has been building for about three years now. I came here at the end of the story so to speak. I've already lost the woman I married.