Well, I just had a visit from one of my neighbors, a girl of about twelve, whose family has apparently been adopted by my runaway kitty Rufus.
I'm glad to hear he's safe and happy, but I can't believe he has moved into somebody else's house and, from the sound of it, is perfectly friendly to them while he won't even come near me! I had him for three years for heaven's sake! I miss him but it sure sounds like he's not coming back here.
He is very skittish around males and never got used to my boyfriend after he (the bf) moved in. At the neighbor's house there are two females who both dote on him and only one boy, so maybe he likes that better....?
It's a dilemma to me, because I'll be moving to a city in about six months and I haven't been able to figure out what I'd do with Rufus. If I took him with me (assuming I got him back somehow) then he'd be in a big city he didn't know if he ever got away again. If I left him here with a neighbor or something, at least it's a small town where there are lots of people that leave food out for cats and stuff. So this way at least he has a family that loves him who are staying put for now. But I still worry that they might move away and leave him behind or something, or not take good care of him, and I'll have moved away, so I won't know what's going on. I HATE giving away animals that I love and am attached to because I never stop worrying that the new people won't take good care of them.... *sigh*
Do you guys think that on the whole it's better to accept that he's not my cat anymore and let him stay there since he seems to be less skittish with them? Then I have to live with the worry that they'll move and leave him behind (they've only lived there about nine months). Also I know he's getting in fights all the time and would be healthier being an indoor cat. I know if I got him back he'd settle in again fine, it's happened before with him. But then if I had him back there's the problem of moving to a city with him and what happens if he runs away there. Aaargh!
My mom's opinion is that he's picked where he wants to be so clearly I should leave him alone. I'm not so sure that you can say a cat really "picks" something, he just likes that he gets fed three times a day there....So what do all you cat people think, do I assume the cat has made the best decision for himself and let him stay there?