Seperate Sex Partners

It's my burden to be such a stud that even other men want me..... sorry to dash your hopes though sturgis old boy...

there has been talk about seperate bedrooma and vacations on this site.

How about sepreate sex partners? Wives are always bitching about their husbands never thinking about anything but sex, and the moon and all the astrological signs must be in order before a long term wife is in the mood.....men are always complaining that their wives use sex aa a weapon and we all know that marriage is the death of a long leisurely blow job...... so why not seperate sex partners?

Seems like a win win situation.

discuss.

Sure, I'm fine with together but separate in any way that works for the couple. My first wife and me were pretty relaxed sexually for example.

When, after centuries of isolation, Christian explorers finally discovered such societies, they were amazed and incredulous. For example, when Captain Cook came to Tahiti he was greatly surprised to find that the Tahitians had sexual intercourse in public and "gratified every appetite and passion before witnesses". Thus, he reported in his Account of a Voyage Around the World (1769):

"A young man, nearly six feet high, performed the rites of Venus with a little girl about 11 or 12 years of age, before several of our people and a great number of natives, without the least sense of its being indecent or improper, but, as appeared, in perfect conformity to the custom of the place. Among the spectators were several women of superior rank who . . . gave instructions to the girl how to perform her part, which, young as she was, she did not seem much to stand in need of."

In spite of his consternation, however, Captain Cook apparently kept his composure and did not try to stop the performance. After all, he was not a moral crusader, but a practical Englishman, a seasoned world traveler, and a son of the Age of Enlightenment. It was left to the Christian missionaries of a later time to become outraged and to eradicate the traditional island customs. Indeed, one can easily imagine the effect the sexual spectacle would have had on Augustine, had he been able to witness it. One can also assume that it would not have changed his opinion. Instead of admitting that he had been proven wrong by the "shameless" islanders, he would probably have condemned them all as slaves of the devil.

At any rate, we know only too well what would happen to the Tahitian performers if they appeared in the United States today. Any man who performed in a "live sex show" with an eleven-year-old girl would be sent to prison as a statutory rapist. Even worse, as a "child molester" or "pedophile", he could be declared a "sexual psychopath". This means that, before, after, or instead of serving his prison term, he could be committed to a mental hospital for forced psychiatric treatment. If he should ever be released, he would be required to register with the police for the rest of his life. The girl, on the other hand, would be regarded as a juvenile delinquent and could be sent to "reform school". Finally, the entire audience might be arrested for having witnessed, and thereby encouraged, an act of public "lewdness and obscenity".

As this example illustrates, the moral values of modern America differ profoundly from those of pre-colonial Tahiti. There, people were applauded as valuable members of the community, who are here considered criminal or insane. What Americans now abhor as the moral "corruption of minors", the Tahitians encouraged as practical sex education. What appears sinful to us, often had a religious purpose for them. As a matter of fact, they supported a special order of celebrants (the Arioi society) who were trained to give public sexual performances. In short, the Tahitians subscribed to a sexual philosophy that is nearly the opposite of our own.

I did not assume I said "I'm guessing" n'est pas? I did not state it was true of you, but it is a very common moral value of modern America, thus my guess n'est pas?

In answer to your question if she had not been so much of a party girl (we were both pretty young) we might still be together. It was her late night drinking and unfocused career path that I found most tiresome.

I don't think it can be said simply if an open relationship is strengthening or harmful. There is a preconceived notion in our modern Western society that it is morally wrong, but that belief in and of itself is meaningless.

Yeah, but it's interesting...is that okay?

I'll be sure to do that.