wife's drinking

The problem is that every 3-4 months, she seems to go wacky on beer. It starts with drinking more often, then she's drinking 4 out of 7 nights and then I come home to find her wasted on her day off. Once I found her drunk on the couch and once she peed all over the bathroom floor. I get mad, she resents me. Then she said she would only drink once a week, one beer a week. Lasted 2 months. Then she said no more drinking at home...Over the last 6 years we have tried all kinds of compromises, but nothing seems to work.

I feel like in this situation, I am the wife and she is the husband !!

Last night she came home and told me that she has the right to have a couple of beers once in awhile and that I don't understand cause I don't drink. I said that I am fine with that, but not with the wacky beer weeks where she goes over the line. Over the last 6 years we have tried all kinds of compromises, but nothing seems to work. I don't think she is an alcoholic, as she went over 4 months without drinking and goes sometimes weeks without not drinking. We seem to be at a standoff. She wants to drink but can't promise not to cross that line and I don't want to come home to find her drunk on her day off.

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Agree that it sounds like problem drinking. Binge drinkers aren't necessarily alcoholics, but they drink to get drunk. Here's a link on Binge drinking

Oh, and what does this mean?

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I feel like in this situation, I am the wife and she is the husband !!

I feel so left out.

What's the problem again? In my most recent line of work; that's the behavior of an occasional social drinker. My advice; chill dude.

She will have 1 -3 beers a once or twice a weeks while she's chatting with her girls on-line. Fine, no problem.

The problem is that every 3-4 months, she seems to go wacky on beer. It starts with drinking more often, then she's drinking 4 out of 7 nights and then I come home to find her wasted on her day off.

Once I found her drunk on the couch and once she peed all over the bathroom floor.

She wants to drink but can't promise not to cross that line and I don't want to come home to find her drunk on her day off.