baddog1 wrote:I have a big problem with anyone who makes the choice to have unprotected sex and is not prepared to care for the child that may be conceived by this choice. (Note: "Caring for" includes adoption or aligning their life/lifestyle choices so as to properly care for the child!)
IMHO - a woman/couple should never be allowed to choose abortion for reason(s) of convenience! The only reasons that should be open to the possibility of having an abortion include: rape, catastrophic health issue to Mom, and/or catastrophic health issue with the fetus. [Note that I did not say "must" have an abortion"!] "Convenience" should NEVER be a reason to abort a fetus/zygote/etc. NEVER!!!
I have a big problem with anyone who is clueless enough to think that pregnancy only happens when someone "chooses" to have unprotected sex.
My mother got pregnant on her honeymoon and had 5 children in seven years. She says she used a different birth control method for each of us. :wink: The plan was for her to work to put my dad through college, then for her to go. So much for that plan.
My husband's sister is referred to as "the immaculate conception" by my mother-in-law.
My husband and I slipped up ONCE on our 5th anniversary cruise (I blame the rum swizzles) and came back with an unexpected souvenir. His reaction to the news was to walk out of the house without a word. When he got back, I offered to have an abortion (which was legal) but we decided we could afford a brief interruption in my career. I got laid off right after coming back from maternity leave, decided to be a stay-at-home mom, and had a second (planned) child. Do I have regrets about giving up my career? Yes, even though I love my kids.
What about pregnancy resulting from a teen-aged girl seduced (not raped) by her boyfriend, hormones overriding common sense, a one-night stand with a guy she met in a bar while celebrating her 21st birthday, trading sex for drugs (do we really need any more crack babies?), a condom breaking or a pill forgotten or rendered ineffective by antibiotics? Average failure rate for condoms is 15% per year, but all birth control methods can fail even if used correctly and consistently (which they often aren't).
I have a problem with a system that ensures that the least responsible women bear the most children, and that I have to pay to support, educate (and often incarcerate) them with my tax dollars.
I have a problem with people who think that the pain, suffering, and economic loss of childbirth are seen as just punishment for women who have the audacity to enjoy sex with someone they don't want as the father of their eventual children.
I have a much bigger problem with anyone who thinks he/she can or should make the decision for anyone else about the conditions under which she should or should not bear a child.
YOU HAVE NO RIGHT to demand - or even suggest - that I bear an unwanted child and tell me to simply "give it up for adoption" if I cannot care for it. It isn't YOUR body that is going to be mutilated and YOUR life that is going to be disrupted by pregnancy and childbirth.
Your personal belief that mindless embryos are sacrosanct (unless if they are the result of rape, etc) is not justified by science or logic. Why do you think that it is OK for women to choose against motherhood prior to conception, but not afterwards?
What is the moral and social difference between using the pill to prevent ovulation, using a barrier method to prevent conception, using an IUD or the "morning-after pill" to prevent implantation, using RU-486 to dislodge the embryo, or using surgery to remove the embryo in the first trimester or fetus in the second? In each case, a genetically-unique potential human being is preventing from existing BEFORE it has a sufficiently developed brain to be considered a person.
Either early abortion is moral or it isn't, regardless of how or why the pregnancy happened.