Oh, AND I don't think it's Pollyanna-ish to think that something is a bigger problem than others do-- seems pessimistic to me, not optimistic... High horse, though, always! Pollyanna? not so much... :wink:
And all I'm saying is that I might-- just might, mind you-- know a tad bit more about both porn and men than you because:
A) I have in moderation viewed, view currently and will continue to view it,
and
B) I'm a guy and I hang with guys.
Of course anything if abused is unhealthy. And yes, some of the stuff out there is just plain sick. But the idea that there's this vast sea of porn addicts out there wasting their lives and their marriages is in my opinion overstated to say the least.
Bella Dea wrote:gustavratzenhofer wrote:Pompeii had porn? Is that what caused the volcano to erupt?
Oh yeah...hot....molten....lava....dripping and running, hot and moist down the side of the mountain.....ohhhh yeah....baby......
I love it when you talk like that, Bella.
Oh gus, admit it. You're a sucker for anything with a curly tail.
I'm not sure Bella is going to be real thrilled with that remark, blacksmithn.
Ahh, she doesn't scare me!
Ummm... She's not here is she?
Is that her?
Well, gotta go!
Ok, that's it. Bend over.
You are going to get the spanking you deserve.
<gustav begins to remove coveralls and suddenly realizes Bella is talking to blacksmithn. Disappointed, Gustav pulls coveralls back up and moves on to different thread>
Now gus...you know the doctor said only one spanking per day. It's bad for your back.
I was just catching up on this thread and I have found the comments interesting. One comment that I wanted to make was that it is not what you watch, it is perhaps where you watch it or who you watch it front of that may be playing a factor in some of those divorces. I am sure Sara Evans would be one person who would agree that it causes divorce. I am not sure of all the particulars but what I read in the gossip rags is that her husband was showing it to their children. Porn is for adults and that is where it should stay. Watching too much of it maybe not so good. A little never hurt any body in the right hands. I do think that the women in most of the movies have a healthier body image then let's say Nicole Richies and Lindsay Lohans of the world. Most aren't' that skinny and some are down right plump. Their was an episode of Oprah where a former child star was doing porn and she came across like she was forced into it. As and adult you can't use that excuse. I do think that there should be a crack down on child porn. No child should be exposed to that kind of imagery. You have to be an adult to understand that it is staged with people who enjoy their jobs and that not all women or men preform like the ones in the movies. (cut paste edit) Don't you guy wish you could do that in the bedroom. I'm lucky if we thirty minutes without a knock at the door or a call in the middle of the night for mommy or daddy.
hi!.....i have a similar thread going right now "i think my husband is addicted to porn", if you want to get more ideas.
it's important that you tell him how it makes you feel and go from there. i don't believe watching a little porn is abnormal. not every man does, but those that do in moderation isn't that big a deal as far as i'm concerned. when it starts to mess with your relationship, then it is a BIG problem. talking is the only way to work through it. there is nothing wrong with you asking him not to look at while you are around. (i believe it is quite disrespectful to look at it while you are there, which was/is the problem in our relationship), be honest and hopefully he will too. good luck!
hi!.....i have a similar thread going right now "i think my husband is addicted to porn", if you want to get more ideas.
it's important that you tell him how it makes you feel and go from there. i don't believe watching a little porn is abnormal. not every man does, but those that do in moderation isn't that big a deal as far as i'm concerned. when it starts to mess with your relationship, then it is a BIG problem. talking is the only way to work through it. there is nothing wrong with you asking him not to look at while you are around. (i believe it is quite disrespectful to look at it while you are there, which was/is the problem in our relationship), be honest and hopefully he will too. good luck!
hi!.....i have a similar thread going right now "i think my husband is addicted to porn", if you want to get more ideas.
it's important that you tell him how it makes you feel and go from there. i don't believe watching a little porn is abnormal. not every man does, but those that do in moderation isn't that big a deal as far as i'm concerned. when it starts to mess with your relationship, then it is a BIG problem. talking is the only way to work through it. there is nothing wrong with you asking him not to look at while you are around. (i believe it is quite disrespectful to look at it while you are there, which was/is the problem in our relationship), be honest and hopefully he will too. good luck!
