Good to know my husband is abnormal...
Thanks, guys, I'll let him know that. And of course you'll all just know he's lying about it, but he's not. He checked it out as a teenager, of course, but he feels like as an adult male with a real live woman around, it would be kind of pathetic to go whack off to pictures...
blacksmithn wrote:cyphercat wrote:Oh, I found the article I was talking about. Here's the part about divorce lawyers:
Utne Reader wrote:At the 2003 meeting of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, some two-thirds of attending lawyers said the Internet played a significant role in divorces that year, pointing a finger at online pornography. Seven or eight years ago pornography had an almost nonexistent role in divorce, reports author and journalist Pamela Paul in Time (Jan. 19, 2004). Keep in mind, legally married couples represent only a portion of the population. Jealousy, shame, mixed feelings, and mixed messages all speak to the difficulty of confronting evidence of desires we find in some combination confusing, elating, obscene, and terrific.
link to article (and others on the topic in the same magazine)
Well, it stands to reason. Figure it out. The sex stops long before the divorce starts. A guy's got to do SOMETHING and if he doesn't want to cheat or pay a hooker, what's left? Sure, there are some guys-- a small minority in all probability-- who go completely nuts over nekkid internet pics and thus CAUSE the divorce/breakup,
but to say that porn plays a deciding role in most divorces is to misstate the case, in my opinion.
Try reading what the damn thing actually says. No one tried to quantify whether it's a "deciding role in
most divorces," there. If you actually read the excerpt, what it's saying is that 2/3 of attorneys say it "played a significant role in divorces that year." It's putting a number on the
attorneys dealing with it, not the number of marriages affected. Saying it was "significant" is quite different than saying it was a deciding factor in most divorces.
In any case, the point you completely gloss over is this: "Seven or eight years ago pornography had an almost nonexistent role in divorce." How does that jibe with your sex-stops-
then-guys-start-depending-on-porn theory? If that was the case, then why is it becoming an issue in breaking up marriages now, but didn't used to be? Anyway, I'm sure you have more knowledge about whether or not this is a growing problem than divorce attorneys do *cough cough*
The thing is, the people on this board who always jump to the defense of using porn and the "you're insecure and in denial if you don't like it" thing have their heads up their asses about the way porn's role in society is changing (although of course, while they have their heads up there anyway, they might as well make a few bucks as some kind of fetish porn stars). Why don't you guys do some reading about what people actually studying this are finding, there's a lot being written about it.
