The piece of paper, to me, is partly legal protection, as far as assests or having someone step in and take over the part of wife or husband, and all the benefits that come with the marriage.
It's an external sign of an internal commitment.
BTW Hep....I don't know if you have children or a complicated financial situation, but you can do a "do it yourself divorce", at least in Florida, if there're no kids, and both of you agree as to the splitting of the marital assest.
That's what I did.
Picked up the form you can find in any office supply store, filled it out, showed the ex what I did.
He and I were both in agreement so we both signed off on it.
Can't remember exactly what then...I'm pretty sure I took it down to the courthouse, then you get a date for both of you to come back in front of the judge.
He just looked at what I filled out, asked if we were in agreement, signed off on it himself, then the clerk took the papers and us down to some office where we got copies, and that was that.
It doesn't even have to be that you have nothing. We bought a house in Texas, and were in the middle of building one in Fla....
I never wanted to see Fla again and wanted the Tx house, he wanted the Fla one....so that's the way we wrote it.
What a sucker he was over that!