Phoenix32890 wrote:Montana- Was your other relationship (the guy who died) an alcoholic or drug addict? If so, before you get seriously involved with anybody, it would be a good idea if you understood why you attract, and are attracted to these sorts of individuals.
Yes, he was and this is why I've taken so many years to figure out why.
I went out with the nicest guys, right up until my father died (I was 21)
When he died, I was devistated and I completely lost myself.
My father was also an alcoholic who was sober for several years before he died, so maybe there's a pattern there.
Anyway, I took over his construction business and started going out with one of my employees (father of my son) only a month after my fathers death.
He was wonderful for the first 6 months, but after I got pregnant, his true colors started to show.
He started drinking heavily, became abusive and it certainly wasn't the man he played himself out to be for those first 6 months.
I was vulnerable and he was a good con, but I still stayed with him for 6 years, because I didn't want my son to grow up without his father (stupid, I know).
After him, I waited 2 years before I got involved with Bruce and again, I was conned.
I was alone with a child and I guess I was simply longing for love, so I jumped right into these relationships without taking the time I needed to see who these men really were.
It's been 8 years since bruce and now I'm finally interested in someone responsible and mature.
This man is opposite from what my last 2 ex's were and this time around, I plan on taking my sweet time to make absolutely sure before I dive back into another relationship.
No more cons, no more alcoholics, and no more abuse!
No way, no how! ;-)
No, but he was a great lover ;-)
