how do i tell my mom.....

My mums never spoken to me about sex which I have to admit upsets me as i think she should have.Then later in my life she has mentioned saucy things in a jokey way and expects me to know what she is on about (I did, but thats not the point)

I still think kissing at 14 is young.I think its mainly jealousy because I didnt do anything like that til I was16/17!!
Kissing can only lead to other things.
But as someone else said, if this young ladies mum is allowing her to date she cant complain if she gets up to 'stuff'.

Sorry, i cant remember your name, but, what is it that you want to tell her and why?
And why didnt yuo talk to her before you did 'stuff'?

[quote="CalamityJane"]I am still wondering what "some sexual contact" means.[/quote]


well lets just say when a guy only uses two fingers. and when a chick uses her mouth. idk how else to explain it. k.

So you were talking to him while he practiced the banjo?

Seems harmless.

bloody hell , 14 years old and from other posts ive read not the youngest either .

Sorry to put a downer on this thread but wheres this world going .

Whats next , they do it at kinda .

Im open on allot of things but im old school on this and let me tell you , EXPECT your mum to go off tap ... i wouldnt worry bout what your dads going to say cause shell be soooo pissed she wont tell him to keep some peace in the house .

Well, I would recommend to tell your mother
about the fellatio (oral sex) you performed, but it
would be wise to educate yourself about contraception,
prevention of STD's (sexually transmitted disease) and
other protection (condoms).

This could be also an opener for a discussion with your
mother: the different contraception methods and what she
would recommend in case you are becoming sexually active.
Her reply will give you an indication how she'll react to the
news that her 14 year old is sexually experienced.

And remember, you also can get a sexually transmitted disease
while performing fellatio.

Well I already told her, just use the video we made to "present" that she's now sexually active. No conversation necessary.

To make things considerably less awkward and confusing, kid, I recommend using metaphors.

I fondly remember my father telling me the vagina is like a big red catcher's mitt. In my mind at the time, I pictured a baboon's derriere. This of course made my first sexual encounter rather bewildering.

But clinical language is another option. For example: "Mom, the other night, Tony applied light pressure to my mons. And I, in turn, executed a fellatio."

Wait, could I be arrested for this post?

If your mom goes on-line...a link to this thread with a note asking her what she thinks about what the person initiating the thread had to say...

...might break the ice.

It is a short move to a conversation at that point.

sincere or not
Allow me to preface this post with an apology for any cynicism this may convey, but ...

As I look over all the recent topics and commentary that the author of this thread has made on A2K in TOTAL, I wonder if this is truly a sincere question from a 14-yr-old girl? Could this all be just a ruse?

Does anyone here feel that this person might be older (based on the language and types of questions posed)? My felt sense is that this is written by an older person, perhaps not even female.

Not that it's impossible for the author to be a 14-yr-old female, but certain wording and thought process just doesn't seem to jibe here.

Anyone else feel this way, too?


For the moment, I will suspend any comment and just wait and see where this goes.

Signed,

Doubting Thomas

I agree Ragman. I stopped responding this person when I saw his/her answer to a musical trivia question. It read:
"If I die tomorrow-Motley Crue" - no way would a 14 year old girl come up with that one.
I also noticed this person's language in a biblical thread and it was way too old sounding for a young teen.
Probably a perv. in his mid 30's.

Might we have solved the mystery of kickycan's disappearance?

Looks like Roxxanne has a lot of time on her hands.

Regardless, should any teen read this, he/she got at least some input

The fact that I am into classic rock cant prove that im older!!!!

huh?


What? Make some sense, please

so what if i like classic rock?

give it up
Somehow, people here feel that your credibility is compromised.

I suspect baseballchic is an undercover FBI agent sent to A2K to ferret out would-be child molesters. But we're onto him/her!

what is that supposed to mean?

another thought ...Thnings that make you say hmmm
For a moment, let's take the focus off of whether or not this person is 14-yr-old:

Baseballchic: If you're really worried about how to discuss with your mother an adult question like your own sexual activity ... how are you doing on making progress towards that end?

Seems like that is no longer your focus? Why is that?

Does your mom know about your participation here? Does she permit it?

Does she allow or even monitor you? Does she give you free reign with your online activities? No? Yes?

Isn't she strict like you said?

Or is all this just another marked inconsistency in your credibility?!

[quote-"ragman(orig)"]For a moment, let's take the focus off of whether or not this person is 14-yr-old:

Baseballchic: If you're really worried about how to discuss with your mother an adult question like your own sexual activity ... how are you doing on making progress towards that end?

Seems like that is no longer your focus? Why is that?

Does your mom know about your participation here? Does she permit it?

Does she allow or even monitor you? Does she give you free reign with your online activities? No? Yes?

Isn't she strict like you said?

Or is all this just another marked inconsistency in your credibility?[/quote]

For a moment, let's take the focus off of whether or not this person is 14-yr-old:

Baseballchic: If you're really worried about how to discuss with your mother an adult question like your own sexual activity ... how are you doing on making progress towards that end? im almost there. weve talked about a time when we could talk alone.

Seems like that is no longer your focus? Why is that? it is my focus. ppl just keep posting things about if im really 14.

Does your mom know about your participation here? yes Does she permit it? kind of. she doesnt stop me because she knows im not doing profanity. she would do whatever she could to get my counselor to permit her to take me off.

Does she allow or even monitor you? Does she give you free reign with your online activities? sometimes.

Isn't she strict like you said? yes. thats why we have a counselor.

Or is all this just another marked inconsistency in your credibility?!