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Dlowan's weird work questions (about stuff to do with kids )

 
 
dlowan
 
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Reply Thu 13 Jul, 2006 07:56 pm
dadpad wrote:
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Also...anyone recall the rape scene at the beginning of Mad Max well (yes, another traumatized kid) and the general sexual "feel" of the film?


I don't recall a rape scene in Mad Max or any general sexually charged overtone.

Perhaps i was old enough to understand it in its context.

I do recall feeling saddened by Mel Gibsons character's loss of his one true love.


Actually, I have been investigating this scene.


It was in MM II, but was cut, I believe, from TV showings (which is why I hadn't seen it) and some theatrical showings.

I think MM's wife in MM I was raped and murdered, but it seems that scene was not so graphic.And it WAS, indeed, sad...as even a little kid would have picked up, I think.


The kid I am thinking of was too small (and not socialised as we would prolly like kids to be) to be able to understand the nuance of the MM II film, or what was really happening on the screeen, and was both traumatized (hence ensuring recall) by the scene, and excited, without having a sense that the behaviour so excitingly depicted was frowned upon, or that he was MEANT to be horrifed......

Rather a toxic brew, when combined with a whole lot of other untoward developmental events, to a young person's dawning concept of what sex is about, when the sexual feelings become hormonally stimulated.
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dlowan
 
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Reply Thu 13 Jul, 2006 07:58 pm
ehBeth wrote:
Do you need a hug or a giggle?

or both?

You can have them.



Lol!!! Hug first, then giggle!


This ain't just me wot gets traumatised by Intake...'tis all of us.
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nimh
 
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Reply Fri 14 Jul, 2006 06:00 pm
dlowan wrote:
nimh wrote:
Holy F Moses, Deb. That sounds like a job for five people..

<pats bunny on head>

Guess there's no funding for that, eh?


For patting us on the head?

Nah...we rely on donations, and each other for that!

Heh. Naw, for extra intake staff... this seems madness.
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sozobe
 
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Reply Fri 14 Jul, 2006 07:28 pm
Dlowan's situation might be different as it sounds much busier, but aside from pure funding problems, part of the problem with all of this is that it's often so unpredictable. At my center, I'd have periods of relative calm (where the people I already had on staff were humming along, slightly to the bored end of the spectrum) and then all of a sudden everything would come crashing down at once and I'd have one of those days from hell that dlowan described.
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Noddy24
 
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Reply Fri 14 Jul, 2006 08:47 pm
Frequently "understaffing" is "just enough staffing for normal times".

Then the stars are misaligned and suddenly chaos reigns. There is no spare man/woman power--just superhuman stretching.
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ossobuco
 
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Reply Fri 14 Jul, 2006 09:02 pm
I've been lucky to have had a saner work life but remember waves of We Have To Have It NOW stress, cramped hands from drawing fast with phone ringing, etc. Even that much stress drove me crazy. That's in landarch, where deadlines are usually arbitrary creations, sometimes having to do with developers getting funded or some such. In the med lab, my first one, I didn't have help - one of those jobs that when you leave they get two people - and was reading immunofluorescent test slides or, in a later lab, HLA typing like a bat-out-of-hell sometimes... but mostly one just worked late to deal with the load. Not the same thing at all as you and your colleagues go through. I can understand the need people feel to have a stiff one on finally getting home.
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dlowan
 
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Reply Fri 14 Jul, 2006 10:01 pm
sozobe wrote:
Dlowan's situation might be different as it sounds much busier, but aside from pure funding problems, part of the problem with all of this is that it's often so unpredictable. At my center, I'd have periods of relative calm (where the people I already had on staff were humming along, slightly to the bored end of the spectrum) and then all of a sudden everything would come crashing down at once and I'd have one of those days from hell that dlowan described.



Yeppers...


Apparently, the craziness I describe used to be a very rare event.


Now, it is the norm. This has apparently been so over the last couple of years.

It reflects the reality, I think, of most key human services, at least in my country....that the number of difficult situations encountered has grown exponentially, and that the client group seen is increasingly chaotic and dysfunctional, and that their difficulties are increasingly complex and overwhelming.

The kids taken into care are far more damaged by the time they get there, and therefore harder and harder for carers to manage...and in my state, the care system, never great, has been carefully fragmented by successive governments between a plethora of private agencies, (because of their dislike of the public sector), so good carers are very hard to recruit and keep, at the same time as we ask them to help kids whose behaviour renders them almost unbearable.

This at a time when our understanding of the devastating effects of poor attachment, neglect and emotional abuse (never mind physical and sexual, whose effects we have known about for a relatively longer time) is far deeper and fuller than at any time before.


A little bit more money has recently come nto the system, AGAIN mostly carefully trickled to many different, mainly charity based, agencies...who are starting from scratch, with staff newly recruited and with a far lesser skill base than those in the established government agencies, whom we in those agencies are then asked to help train so they can scramble themselves into competency (of course, they DO have some good, competent staff already, but precious ******* few, as far as my experience has gone!) only to see them fumble with these terribly difficult families, who require enormous skill to assess and work with.

The families then often, after a brief diversion, get funneled back into the agencies they would have gone to anyway, who have had almost no new resourcing. Grrrrrrrrrrr.......



Blimey.


More whinging! Sorry.


It makes me want to bite, though.



The good thing, I think, is that the government is beginning to look at early intervention via infant mental health.

Initially, they funded something that could begin to identify, but not assist with, the need.


As far as I can see, the weight of overwhelming reality is gradually dawning, and the ability to intervene is gradually trickling into the agency most involved with that process. Very gradually...so far they are moving more therapy staff in, but with a model mainly of supporting nurses to do the work.

That'll work with the easy to medium stuff, but for the high risk stuff you need VERY skilled therapists.

Lol! The government, as they do, initially thought that a nice visit from a nice nurse would suffice. As it would, in a nice happy family. They are slowly discovering what is really out there in high risk family land, because they armed their nice nurses with a detailed assessment instrument, which, if the families didn't throw out the nice nurse for asking searching, probing questions, revealed just how scary the prognosis was for a lot of those poor babies.
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Noddy24
 
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Reply Sat 15 Jul, 2006 11:14 am
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Lol! The government, as they do, initially thought that a nice visit from a nice nurse would suffice. As it would, in a nice happy family. They are slowly discovering what is really out there in high risk family land, because they armed their nice nurses with a detailed assessment instrument, which, if the families didn't throw out the nice nurse for asking searching, probing questions, revealed just how scary the prognosis was for a lot of those poor babies.


I'm reminded of the Charitable Victorian Matrons and their self-assigned duties of Visiting the Poor every other Tuesday afternoons.

Of course, emotional chaos is not limited to the poor.

Someday in the sweet byandby couples will need licenses to procreate.
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dlowan
 
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Reply Fri 4 Aug, 2006 03:00 am
I was on Intake today, and I hate everyone.


Everyone.


Me included.


I do.
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dadpad
 
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Reply Fri 4 Aug, 2006 03:07 am
Learn to love yourself first.

Smile Smile Smile Smile

Give me a smile.....................come on.

Please.
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dlowan
 
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Reply Fri 4 Aug, 2006 03:13 am
Crying or Very sadCrying or Very sadCrying or Very sadCrying or Very sadCrying or Very sadCrying or Very sadCrying or Very sadCrying or Very sadCrying or Very sadCrying or Very sadCrying or Very sadCrying or Very sadCrying or Very sadCrying or Very sadCrying or Very sadCrying or Very sadCrying or Very sadCrying or Very sadCrying or Very sadCrying or Very sad
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shewolfnm
 
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Reply Fri 4 Aug, 2006 05:28 am
( big sloppy happy hug )
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dadpad
 
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Reply Fri 4 Aug, 2006 05:32 am
I just got home.

A man was killed this week in a forestry coup not so far from where i am working.

I dont know any of the details on how, why, when or exactly where.

You do good work bunny, you make a difference.

Even though i dont know the man that was killed I bet he did good work too but he cant make a difference any more.

Just at the minute I'm scared, I'll get over it. Being scared is good in my line of work it makes you carefull.

Theres always someone worse off.

Isnt there?
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Noddy24
 
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Reply Fri 4 Aug, 2006 05:46 am
Dlowan--

Remember your starfish.

Hold your dominion.
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dlowan
 
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Reply Fri 4 Aug, 2006 06:11 am
dadpad wrote:
I just got home.

A man was killed this week in a forestry coup not so far from where i am working.

I dont know any of the details on how, why, when or exactly where.

You do good work bunny, you make a difference.

Even though i dont know the man that was killed I bet he did good work too but he cant make a difference any more.

Just at the minute I'm scared, I'll get over it. Being scared is good in my line of work it makes you carefull.

Theres always someone worse off.

Isnt there?



Forestry coup?
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dadpad
 
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Reply Fri 4 Aug, 2006 06:19 am
dlowan wrote:


Forestry coup?


A designated timber harvesting area or compartment.

Maybe it should have an "e" on the end.
I didn't come here for a spelling lesson.
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dlowan
 
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Reply Fri 4 Aug, 2006 06:28 am
dadpad wrote:
dlowan wrote:


Forestry coup?


A designated timber harvesting area or compartment.

Maybe it should have an "e" on the end.
I didn't come here for a spelling lesson.



Who wants to give you one, you damn silly marsupial?

I was thinking along those lines, just making sure.


That's awful.


I hope it was quick, at least.


((((((((((((((((((((((Dadpad)))))))))))))))))))))))
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JPB
 
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Reply Fri 4 Aug, 2006 07:43 am
{{{{{{{big bunny hug}}}}}}

dadpad is right, deb, it's hard but you do make a difference.


{{{{{{dadpad hugs too}}}}}
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dlowan
 
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Reply Fri 4 Aug, 2006 07:51 am
I'm fine!


Nothing a moan and a couple of glasses of wine couldn't fix!


Monaing, especially, is good.
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Noddy24
 
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Reply Fri 4 Aug, 2006 10:54 am
I don't know who watches the watchers.

We are here to listen to the therapist moan--partly for love and partly because the therapist moans with wit and charm.
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