Dlowan replied and I answered
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Do you really think the dipshits would?
Yes,
http://www.able2know.com/forums/viewtopic.php?p=2131995#2131995
see reyns post and then millers
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And would you care?
yes, mud sticks. that kind of mud is the stickiest.
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Do mins feel so uncomfortable re addressing questions re kids and sex these days?
Absolutley! yes!!! very much!!!!!!!!
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Re empathy...lol! For a looooong time the "teaching" of empathy for those whose experiences have led them to lack it was considered impossible...you know not what you ask. That's like saying "Oh, and ensure world peace by the end of the week, Miss Jones."
But yes, there are some ways, we hope, of doing some repair re that, and believe me, I do my best.
I'm sure you do, just because its impossible is no reason to stop trying. Trust and love, love and trust, and guidance without recrimination when mistakes get made. So easy to say much harder to do.
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The "didn't ask you to" is nice for a few of me kids.
true story, long time ago, I was about 18/19, had a relationship with a 16 year old. most forms of sex except penetration. She said (in an annoyed tone) why dont you try to root me? i said, "cause you didnt ask me to!"
It was lovely (for both) when she did ask.
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I am hoping that thread will die..or move on from that question....(racking brains for simple questions....you haven't seen those films, have you?)
I'm not very bright. what films?
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I could see that. Also see your frustration. did you really expect laymen, including me, to grasp the nuances.
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Dumb thread to start.
I disagree, possibly the wrong place to ask it but still made me think. and you might have got "one out of the box".
so yeah why do we tell kids not to have sex? for a while there i couldnt really think of any reason apart from the physical damage. I kinda view kids 12 and under messing with genitals as play/exploration. Its when the age difference and non consensualness/force thing kick in that it becomes a problem.
Another girlfriend told me to STOP i said "why" she said "cause I'm frightened" I stopped. all was good. she was more frightened of the powerfull physical feelings she was getting than what I was actually doing at the time.
probably none of that helps you at all. <shrug>
I'll shut up now!