Every woman is different ... and you know, that really sucks sometimes :wink: .
No seriously - I mean, its like you gotta start all over again learning with each of 'em, they all like different things, and your new lover may well dislike what the previous one was really into ...
So yeah, Vonderjohn, what the others said - no set instructions you can just follow and bingo, have success, doesnt work that way. Only way to really find out is from your girlfriend. (Thats the reason why I wouldnt want some debutante youngster as a gf anymore, cause if
she hasnt tried much yet and doesnt really know herself, her body, desires, well yet either, then you know, it gets awkward).
Course, some basic info is always good ... when I was 16 and had my first girlfriend, I didnt even know about clitorises (err, whats the plural of that?
) ... and she didnt tell me either, too shy probably (see above) ... and yeah, not much happening then.
Use a "come hither" motion when you have your finger inside her (said Lord Ellpus), dont go jamming your finger in but just do a little rubbing on the outside (said Slappy) - it's just that every woman likes something else. And at different moments. It can all work depending on whom you're with and what the mood is like ...
I had a girlfriend for many years, she never had an orgasm though penile/vaginal intercourse either ... only through oral sex, or when I used my fingers ... but even then she didnt like much happening inside, only the "Slappy" approach, say. (Who'd ever have thought that "Slappy" would once be used as shorthand for "vanilla"?!
).
But I also had a girlfriend and a lover who came, when I used two fingers (in, err, different holes) and my mouth, all at the same time - no issues with "poking" there, apparently (and I tell ya, doing three things at a time its not like youre really capable of especially smooth finger-operating either, its just that they're inside, and at least one of 'em is doing something..).
Plus, I had a lover - sex wasnt actually always all that great with us (too much stress in expectation I suppose) - but there was this one time - it was many years back, but I havent forgotten. (If you dont want TMI, stop reading now, btw.)
I was just stopping by in her hometown, where she was visiting at her parents place, so we were in her old room ... We were messing around, she was wearing this, like, short open vest over her shirt and I had her take off her shirt, and then I put the vest back on her, which only half covered her large breasts (I loved those...)
She was kinda excited / anticipating, not knowing where I was going with this, and we were kissing, fondling .. I started caressing her hair, inside her panty I mean - soon, pants fell away - and well, she liked the "come hither" motion, me doing that, my finger (and yes, later two fingers) inside.
She liked it
very much, in fact ... now I'd never heard of female ejaculation at that time, so when she started becoming more than wet, and then just - err - like, literally, gushing - I was pretty, err - surprised - but it was obviously a good thing, so I just kept doing what I was doing... And oh yeah it was a good thing.
She obviously remembered it still many years later too, because when we were talking about things past once and I generally hinted at that visit back then, how we had been together, she went all flustered and shy like, uhm yeah, err I remember that time.. (and she wasnt one to be shy quickly).
Mind you that was definitely a, well, twice-in-a-lifetime experience (happened only once more, different girl, different thing I was doing), so, eh - Vonderjohn - dont go thinking this is something you have to have happening or anything...
(OK, I'm hoping, it'll be a thrice-in-a-lifetime thing at least ... I'm not dead yet..)
I think I need to start wearing skimpier clothes when I'm cleaning.
This thread is getting more interesting by the second . . .
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