Virginity - Is the first cut the deepest?

Seems like it was a long time ago.
I can barely remember my first time and he was the only guy I really loved.

If she does keep her mind on past memories she is gona miss out on a future.
She may think of it now and again but I doubt itl be on her mind all the time so dont worry.

You dotn mention anything about yourself.Do you always think about your first time?

You never forget your first time, but it's not something that lingers in my mind.
The past is the past and I live in the present.

Has she given any indication she thinks this is an issue?

Why borrow trouble?

What about your first time? Men are virgins at one point too you know.

I would hope so, or then that could mean it wasnt very good for her, and maybe even scary.

As humans, we remember most everything that we enjoyed in our lives.
Sex included.. if not one of the more favorable memories in our lives.

There isnt anything to be jealous of because she isnt capable of going BACK to said man to try to relive any memories, or recreate any relationship.

You cant control what someone thinks about... so save your self some heartache and stop thinking about it too.
She is WITH you.. and you are giving her new memories about sex, and a relationship that she will think of her whole life.
I imagine, it is a very difficult position to be in when you learn that an EX- has died.
You feel as though you should 'grieve'... but they are still an EX.. so it seems inappropriate.
She has gone through all of that, to come out and be with you.
Isnt that enough to draw some strength from?

Yes, she will remember him
Yes, she will remember sex with him

but , guess what.. she is HAVING sex with you..
memory be damned..

Im also guessing you two are in your late 20's ?
Teenage "love" .. well.. we all know that is never a' real ' love because people are simply not mature enough to MAKE it that way..
Im not saying she didnt feel something for him, but I guarantee you.. what she feels for you now, as an adult, is totally diffrent then what she felt as a teenager.
I'd put money on that..

What the hell, Kenn. Are you looking for a virgin?

Good luck with that.

Gus- You have "hit the nail on the head".

Kenn- If a woman is some years out of adolescence, chances are excellent that she has had sexual relationships before she met you. It is totally unrealistic for you to expect otherwise.

I am concerned about the jealousy. What is that all about? Are you very possessive with this woman? If you are, you need to look into yourself to understand why, or you (and especially your girlfriend) are going to have a lot of problems in the future.

The fact is that she wants to be with YOU. And that is all that counts!

Were YOU a virgin when you met your girlfriend????

All we need is three wise men and it's Xmas already!

Hi Everyone!

Thanks for all of your advice.

Let me add something more to that. I was not a virgin when i met her and I also do not cherish my past experience as I had sex with girls, but did not "make love" with them. What i found in this girl is really wonderful. I love this girl very much with all my heart. She too gives me all she could and repeatedly told me that I am the "best" person she ever met. But what I want to know from you girls is whether the first time is the best or most memorable one. I learned people saying that girls have a special feeling for the one who broke their virginity. I fear she may cherish those memories. As for me i didn't, because i was doing just for fun.

The first time was not the best or the most memorable. (I'm a gal.) I mean, I remember it, the way I remember various other things in my life, but the main sentiment I retain is "whew, got that over with."

My first time was rather boring.

Is that meant as a pun, Phoenix?

Mine was ok, it didnt put me off.
I hope he cared for me, Id hate to think he was just doing it for the sex.
Some men tend to forget there is a a person attatched to the vagina.

i second that boredom.

I dont know may people though, whos first time was any good..

LE- No I didn't, but it certainly came out as a "funny"!

LE-She said f'U'nny.

Mine was when I was in my early teenage years, and the entire fifteen seconds was mind blowing.

15 seconds! my God you have self control!!

'Twas in a bathroom, as it was the only room in the house that had a lock on the door.

I was always a romantic I suppose, looking back.

Ive done it in a bathroom, tho the door wasnt locked, but everybody was out so Im not much of a risk taker.