WhoodaThunk wrote:FreeDuck wrote:I think that's healthier than keeping things to yourself until the only thing left to say is "I'm leaving".
I hope that's not the impression I gave with my earlier comments, WhoAmI. Hardly. I think an honest give-and-take is a good thing, and arguments properly resolved are a part of that.
I still maintain that even though a wife
says she wants to hear all of your doubts, feelings, and "what-if" ruminations, that's not necessarily the best route for a husband to take.
Be careful for your sake and hers.
I'd agree with whoodathunk in this case. But if it worked for you WhoAmI? by telling your wife exactly how you felt, then I am glad it worked out for you.
But if I were your wife, I would need more reassurance from this point onwards. I love to hear how and what my husband feels. I know some of his crushes and I think he knows many of mine but I would never like him to spell it out for me. We are secured in our relationships that both knows nothing is going to come out of our crushes. If we were to talk about them, the crushes have taken a definite importance in our life and that would make me insecure.
But again, not the same works for everyone. If talking your feelings out made it better for you and your wife then I am all for it.
And congratulations on your baby!!