Quote:I have to say Aidan, I am totally amazed and extremely dis-gruntled to hear that you hit your children.
It's wrong.
I agree - it is wrong to use violence against a child. I said as much and said I felt ashamed and apologetic after I'd done it on the few occaisions I did. I haven't spanked either one of my children in years though and I have no desire or need to now that they're old enough to know not to run out in the street in front of cars or leave the yard to go play down by the river when they're not supposed to- you know stuff like that that used to scare the **** out of me and elicit an impulsive swat on the butt from me.
Quote:I think the problem lies in your violent upbringing. As the late P Larkin wrote, (from memory)
They f*** you up your mum and dad
They never meant to do
They gave you problems of their own
And added new ones too.
Right - whatever you choose to believe Mathos.
I do like some of Philip Larkin's work though although I've read he was a racist and mysogynistic and just over all unpleasant to be around. Still, you can tell from his writings that he was a very clever guy. I even named my first dog Larkin. He was beautiful - a golden retriever/malamute mix, 120 lbs- just a perfect specimen.
Quote:It's not much good splitting somebody's head open and giving them a band aid after.
Yep, that's true too. Whose head got split open and by whom? I'm just trying to keep up here....
Quote:You need to sort this out Young Lady and get it sorted with your kids or they will become child abusers too.
Don't waste a minute thinking about it Mathos - it's all sorted- I assure you.
Coincidentally, I'm reading a really interesting book by Lionel Shriver about this very subject called,
We Need to Talk About Kevin. It won the orange prize a couple of years back. It's fascinating. It's a series of letters this woman is writing to her estranged husband about their l6 year old son who is in prison for killing seven of his classmates and two teachers at his school. It's pretty much an indictment of America's fostering of spoiled kids who have a fascination with violence, but told from the very interesting perspective of this mother who produced this incredibly evil little seed. It's so interesting because she is very clear-eyed and objective in her description of him- never sentimental or in denial about who he was or what he did. She goes all the way back to her pregnancy and just outlines his behavior and the sense of menace just grows and grows with every page.
She does a great job of describing American upper middle class life with children very accurately - but I keep finding little clues that she may be English. I'm gonna google her. There are just some word choices that ring false. But the biggest clue is that though the child refuses to talk, play, interact with other children or even be completely toilet trained by the age of six (and these are all choices he's making, he's very, very bright and capable but incredibly manipulative) - he's not in any kind of therapy. That just wouldn't happen in America. That kid would have been evaluated and in treatment and on some type of medication before he hit three.
*That should give you some kind of clue as to what kind of kids I teach Mathos.