FreeDuck wrote: It was part of a deal I made with her when she wanted to do cheerleading. I said she could if she tried soccer too.
Freeduck, she FOUR!!!!
Four year olds don't make deals...am I all off base or something that a 4 year old is a little girl that changes their minds from one minute to the next.
I'm sorry freeduck, but I remember vividly being 4 years old, and it was horrible because of having to, oh God, I don't even know how to say it..... be RESPONSIBLE for something. I just know that your little girl is not even old enough to be in kindergarden yet....what happened to just being a little kid?
She's not SUPPOSED to have schedules and goals and plans and worry about playing by rules or what position she is.
At four your little girl should be telling you one day she wants to be a lion trainer, and the next day she decides to be a princess.
Why do you want her to grow up so fast? One day when she doesn't have time for you because she's got all these other things going on in her life, you'll sit and wish and maybe even cry that you don't have your little girl to cuddle in your lap, and that you missed some of the chances to do that because you wanted her to do something she didn't want to do.
This isn't meant to criticize your parenting personally freeduck....I was there. I never got to sit in my mothers lap because she was "too busy" She was "too busy" all my childhood, and figured since she worked so much, I could be the maid. Then, when I wasn't even there anymore, she found the time to talk, and expected to be accomodated.
I'm crying again, because what I miss most about my childhood was being a child, and it's hard to believe that you wouldn't take every opportunity to savour her being your baby while you still can. The time of cuddles ends fast. She's barely out of diapers. Let her do or don't do any damn thing she wants, while she still needs you. That won't spoil her, or ruin or life, or keep her from getting into a good college. The title of your thread says it all...don't be one of them freeduck, be better than that. Go check to see if your little angel is sleeping, and kiss her on the forehead.
Nimh, thanks for the hugs...boy, I really needed it. I've got to go find my husband so I can be cuddled to make up for some of what I didn't get when I should have.