greg1 wrote:to be honest i don'T have a reply. i haven't seen much of her this week as she is away. she rings me every day but we don't get into heavy conversations as it's uncomfortable on the phone. i know the logical thing to do is to put her out bag and baggage but as stupid as it sounds except for her actions now we are unable to hurt eachother.
the 3 months away starts this weekend and then she's gone. he's telling his wife and kids then as well.
i really don't know what to do. the 5 years have been great and there was no signs of this coming.
Well, I have to say, as someone who's done the leaving before (though not for another person in particular), she's leaving you with a lot to handle on your own: kids, home, emotional aftermath of hearing her "news." That is rough on you, and no, it's not "normal."
Well, it does sound as though she's made up her mind and left you with a bunch of processing to do. Do some reading on divorce, custody, property division, and - very importantly - the emotional parts of going through a divorce. Do you have friends/family/others you can lean on?
Has she stated what she wants about the children and the house? No matter how wrecked you may feel, you need to remember that the children are the most important thing in the world, so protect them. I hope she knows that, too.