Input appreciated--(this is a low-drama post)

Maybe he thinks he does know you?

If you think it's chatty and dull though, doesn't sound very promising.

An interesting observation Sozobe-- because I believe he does think he knows what makes me tick. In his emails he's almost made a diagnosis about my personality traits. It's strange. I want to tell him up front about the chattiness and his presumption of "getting" me.

Has he asked you what your sign is yet?

Then tell. See what happens.

It sounds like you've had a fair amount of email conversation and at least one face-to-face meeting -- I think a lot of people would consider that grounds for "knowing" someone, especially in this context (possible romantic interest). Have you been writing personal, revealing stuff back to him, or just, like, "Hey, pretty bird outside." ;-) Why do you think he doesn't know you?

Actually, sounds like I have it wrong -- you met, THEN emails. (At first reading I thought it was some long involved email correspondence with a face-to-face meeting somewhere towards the end of it.)

Overall, you sound profoundly uninterested in him, and it doesn't sound like you owe him anything in particular, so why continue?

That pretty well sums up our relationship, soz.

sozobe, no I haven't been sending revealing things about me to him--

He doesn't know me because I've had one meeting with him that lasted 2 hrs. at the most.

Example: We met at a park that he's familiar with that I'd never been to (I'm fairly new to the area) and he walked ahead of me when we were negotiating the steeper terrains, talking all the time. Some little trigger in me registered t something wasn't right about that. He also walked a lot faster then me in general so he was always a little bit ahead.

My feeling is, if you are meeting someone that you want to get to know, you take the time to walk side-by-side with them.

Thanks for your responses, by the way.

No, he didn't ask my sign, although I kind of wish he did, because then I could summarily dismiss him without thinking that I'm being too picky about it.

Gala-- maybe he wanted you to see his tight butt.

(Can't figure out another good reason to race your date uphill....)

That is sort of weird.

OK. Now, I have to know. Did he have a cute butt?

Gala, it sounds like his interest is mostly in himself; it doesn't sound as though this suits you. It's just possible that you could quit answering his emails, and he wouldn't even notice. Give it a try?

You might want to be more aggressive with your interests, likes and dislikes. Don't give him sole control the discussion. Besides, small talk is the number one killer of meaningful relationships.

BTW I am male and understand your dilemma.

Gala--

You don't suppose you're getting a generic e-mail? The daily update he sends to every woman he knows?

I'm with Roger. Stop answering his e-mails.

What a dud.

But, butt...?


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Lash, ha! It was coldish that day, so there was no view of the butt, but, I think I just figured it out...he's got some years on me, at least 12, so I bet it was a prowess thing.

Showing his virility....

Able to climb mountains ....

That's sorta sad.

You know what you have to do....

A younger, more self-assured guy is waiting to nab you.

Gala- After living a long time, and having two husbands, if I have learned something, it is that early impressions are often very, very accurate. With both men that I married, what I picked up on, on the first date, came to pass in the relationship later.

He sounds like a self-centered bore to me!

Roger, good to hear from you. I'm glad to see you surface in spite of Tax season.

I may just do that, not answer him, afterall, if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.

Noddy, I don't think they're generic posts-- an interesting thought though. There is, like, no way this guy has got a harem somewhere.

Tell-tale signs when a man is a real player: When he's stupendously charming and flirts with absolutely every woman. This guy is not stupendously charming.