Didn't he have a life before he met you?
I'd consider clingy in 2 weeks to be a huge red flag. Didn't he have a life before he met you?
Maybe define "clingy"
One person's "clingy" is another person's "refreshingly honest about what he wants"; one person's "I need space" is another person's "commitmentphobe". (I don't think you are, btw.)
Mac made a good point:
Quote:Didn't he have a life before he met you?
Does he want to be your entire life?
Devoted is flattering, but remember early, ardent devotion is the way a lot of abusive relationships take off.
Can you define exactly why you're uneasy?
It's bad, because if you know someone for only 2 weeks, you don't really know them all that well. And to start proclaiming your love, and how great everything it is...well, that can change fast after knowing someone after a while.
Maybe you can slow the process down. Stop talking every single day, don't return all his calls. If he starts getting worse, than you know he'd make a jealous boyfriend.
CL, by the way, what the hell? Don't you remember that thread there, where you said something like "you're funny," or maybe it was "you suck," but whatever. It was directed at me, and I really felt something. And it wasn't the frozen hot dog I felt. Anyway, I love you. Well, maybe it's just my blow up sheep I really love, but I still love you. Can I call you 9 times today??? When I'm done with my 900 sex line calls?
Do you look forward to seeing him everyday? If yes, then he's not too clingy, in no, then he is.
Definitely sounds like taking a step back would be good, if for no other reason than that you're uncomfortable with it. How he reacts will be instructive.
If you're that worried about his reaction, that's not good right there.
Go ahead and say all of this -- you're interested, but things are moving too fast for you -- and see what his reaction is. Include specifics -- that if you don't answer a call or email that he shouldn't worry about you, and that you'll get annoyed if he keeps checking up on you.
If there are problems after all of that, huge red flags.
I can't believe you're not just completely turned off and have stopped seeing him. When a girl does this to me, I'm done. It's not even flattering, it just shows how emotionally unstable she is.
In other words...this dude's got problems.
The former me has been way too clingy on girls in the past, but this is out of hand.
By the way, what's the name of the lesbian club?? Is it a straight lesbo club, or do a lot of bi-chicks go there? I'm in a dillema. I have a hot girl that will do a threesome with me, but I need to find another girl. I'm guessing since it's a lesbian club, it's filled with butch, straight-out lesbians.