How should I act?

oh, no disrespect taken (or given :wink: ) you're just broke right now onthequite.....yes, it's the burden of man that he doesn't know what we're thinking. hehehe.

(sorry for all the spelling mistakes in the first post...I look retarded, but I was just in a rush)

Seriously though, zona, do be yourself, but, hey, you do kinda like this girl... You're 17, past the age of punching a girl on the arm and running away if you like her

I've been thinking. I'm sure there's a lot of reasons some of the girls seem to go for the "bad" guys....maybe part of it is the fact that if a guy treats a girl badly, she will get the message that's all she worth. The same thing goes in reverse. Women are always wondering why guys seems to go for some bitch when a really nice people like us are around.

Oh and Bella's idea of "maybe you can get it next time" (bella's a woman too, and one hottie)

super super cool....planting seeds.



Here's the lyrics to an old song you might think is corny, but....

All my friends have to ask me
Something they didn't understand
How I get all the women in the palm of my hand
I told them
Treat her like a lady
Do the best you can do
And she'll give in to you

Lord, you can see, you know what I mean

There just ain't no substitute
Oh, you got to love her
And tease her
But most of all you got to please her
You got to hold her
And want her
And make her feel you'll always need her

Whoa-oh strange As it seems
You know you can't treat a woman mean
You got to treat her like

So, my friend, there you have it
I said it's the easy, simple way
If you fail to do this
Don't blame her if she looks my way
'Cause I'm gonna
Treat her like a lady, so affectionately
I'm gonna treat her like a lady
And she'll give in to me

Paying is no big deal. Either way. If you let her split it, there's nothing wrong, or pick up the tab yourself. Just if you pay, don't make an issue out of it. Just like Bella said, "hey, I got it...you get next time."

Don't put your arm around her unless you get some definite, positive, flirting signs from her.

The cliche saying "nice guys finish last" doesn't mean you have to be a complete a$$hole. It means being overly "nice" can hurt you. Just be casual, don't keep telling her how pretty she is, you really like her, ect. Once you let your guard down and tell her how much you're attracted to her, there's no challenge for her anymore. And even sometimes they won't admit it, women like that too.

It's your first or second time hanging out, take it for what it is. Getting to know each other. Just have fun, don't take it too seriously.

Did slappy just give good, solid advice?

Ohmygod. The world is about to end. :wink:

He had a pretty good run with echi a while back. He's on a roll. :wink:

I did?

Yes Bella, the world is about to end.

So come over, get naked and bend over.

Whew.....thank you for saying something Slappy-Like. I can breathe again.

My day is now complete.

You can breathe? Oops, forgot the gag.

Really, I was thinking someone had slappy tied up in the closet...

That is good advice Slapster.

Okay everyone I have an update for you.

Basically I think I must have came on too strong because she backed out of our plans for "an appointment". I believe her because she apologized about 10 times and she seemed very sorry and everything.

But, I think I screwed up in the beginning because I asked her if she wanted to do something Thursday, then go bowling Friday, then go to the game after bowling on Friday, and I asked her all of that in the same sentence.

So since I came on too strong is all hope lost?

If you don't know her too well, then yes, trying to make plans for two nights in a row can come across as too much.

How did she leave it with you though? Did she say she wants to get together another time?

Next time say something like, "it's ok. Since you're cancelling on me, and I have to go back to my blackbook to see what my Plan B was, you'll just have to treat me to bowling next week. I'll call you later, have a good weekend."

Ignoring my pompous approach to women, all hope isn't lost.

Here's a great way to break the ice with a girl you're just trying to get to know, and it's not coming on too strong. Make plans with a group of your friends, let's say to go bowling for example. If it's Friday night, when you see her, or call her, say "hey, Friday night a bunch of us are going bowling. You should join us. Bring yourself, or friends if you want."

There's a no pressure way to get together. Once you're there, then you can try to get some one-on-conversation, but don't hang all over her all night. Talk to her, joke around, then go back to your friends. Back and forth.

Alright well I certainly came on too strong like my friend told me, but is all hope lost?

I have a question Zona..When you asked her all these things, did you plan to say all of that?

Or, did you suddenly freak out a little and feel like it was beyond your control?

We all do that sometimes. But yeah, if I was the girl, I would have been thinking "God, he's trying to plan out the rest of my life!"

Slappy's giving you good man to man advice, just take one thing at a time.

Yes it definitly wasn't planned, I just sort of freaked out and I couldn't stop myself. It's not like I want to plan the rest of her life, that would suck!

I've realized I really do need to take things one thing at a time.

That's ok

We've all done that, and later on thought "Crap, what was I thinking?"

This was a good lesson for you.

Yep, probly best to just move on and not dwell, there's more fish in the sea afterall.

Not all hope is lost.

But sometimes it's good to take a step backward to take two steps foward. Which is why I suggested the group get together.

You may have thrown her off a little, just because females don't like to feel pressured or put on the spot about agreeing to a date.

But that doesn't mean there's no shot at her being attracted to you. Just be casual, act like you don't care either way(actually you really should have that attitude), and try what I suggested. I wouldn't completely give up yet.

Alright thanks for the advice, I'll let all of you know how everything goes in a couple weeks or so.

(pssssst)

ok, he's gone....

do you think he'll get laid in the next couple of weeks?

I hope so. I love happy endings.





OH HI Zona!
Didn't see you standin' there.

hey i heard that!


I'm into happy endings myself, but this week doesn't seem to have one for me, no biggie.