I agree, Dasha. He is much better off doing what he does best in the open.
Littlek, this is something I found years ago and I have no attribution. I identify very closely with this as, I think, many people do who have lived a few decades.
Quote:"A growing caterpillar's cells, which later become the butterfly's cells, are distributed at different locations within the body of the caterpillar. Small clusters of tiny cells, called imaginal buds, embody the blueprint of the butterfly. The caterpillar's immune system recognizes these as foreign and tries to destroy them. ("You'll never get me up in one of those things," one caterpillar is rumored to have told another as they watched a monarch ascend from a cocoon in early spring.) As the buds arrive faster and begin to link up, the caterpillar's immune system breaks down and its body begins to disintegrate.
Still, the butterfly doesn't "compete" with the caterpillar. There's no battle for dominance; the butterfly is not an alien organism developing within the caterpillar. The caterpillar/butterfly is a single organism, with the same genetic code. Through a powerful, devastating process, it is no longer a caterpillar. It is transformed and reborn as a butterfly.
People who experience being engaged with a powerful force that seems to lift them beyond themselves seldom fully understand what happens in such moments. Nor do they find it easy to talk about the experience. Something has been annihilated. Something extraordinary has been born.
The lucky ones, like the butterfly, realize they have a limited amount of time to spread their new wings, and soar."
