he doesn't have the guts to ask me out?

What do you lose if you take the initiative
what do you lose if you take the initiative?

Romance is just a step away.

well like i said im worried that if maybe he refuses... we would feel very uncomfortable around each other later on..

If he refuses, you need to be mature enough not to be uncomfortable.

If you're not ready for that, don't do it.

And tell people to stop telling you goofy stuff like "look how he's looking at you". That's not useful to anyone considering a 'relationship'. That's kid stuff.

Do you share similar interests with him? If so, there is your premise for asking him out. And, make it something casual, like coffe or tea or whatever.

thats kind of a good idea
but... im still worried..
what if it freaks him out

i mean i doubt it... but still... im just not sure if i should

i need more replies to see what other people think too!

How old are you Ms. Rose?

Ask him if he will come over to your house and help you hang a picture. Then when he shows up answer the door in the nude.

Then, gently take him by the hand and show him where you want the picture hung.

hmm that wasnt very good advice....

I tried.

lol thanks but no thanks

Gus, I'd like to take this opportunity to thank you for joining us here on the Relationships & Marriage forum. Your presence has truly breathed new life into these threads.

Dear Abby doesn't hold a candle to you.

Thank you, Eva. The man who swims in the ocean does not fear the rain.

Well, I almost always say "Go for it".

If you like him, and you can handle being around him if he rejects your invitation to go out, then do it.
It's surprisingly easy to do, once you get rejected a few times.

Hey, have you ever asked a guy out before? Have you ever gotten a no?

Gus's suggestion is better than mine-- although I suspect Ms. Rose is still in her teens, early teens. She doesn't seem open to opening the door nekked, so perhaps a better option is a chaperoned date to Chucky Cheese?

well.. im a big romantic so a perfect date would be.. something like ..
a dinner at a romantic rstaruant, with soft music, candles, roses on teh table.. and then a walk at a nearby beach after..
or something along those lines
i had to write an essay of a perfect date earlier.. but im not going to rewrite the whole thing now..
anyways..
flushd, that was pretty good advice but..
no ive never asked a guy out yet. if i had- why would i be asking now if i should?
im still not sure about it.
i want to get more replies.. and time.. before i do anything..

Speaking as a girl that has asked a guy out and been rejected: it's not that bad. I've never been sorry I did it, even right afterwards when I was a little awkward around him for a while.

If you're going to be uncomfortable around him if he says no, then don't. But why be uncomfortable? It's not like asking him to marry you or anything! Make it casual and light and it won't be too hard on either of you.

The guy I asked out took my number but never called . . . sniff, sniff! I still had to see him after it was clear he wasn't interested, but I just acted normal and then after awhile, I felt normal again. It's really not that bad even if you get rejected, take it from me! I've always been glad I did it anyway because it's good to have that perspective too-- being the pursuer instead of the pursuee for a change. It's hard for guys to ask us out too ya know!

thanks cyphercat- that was really awesome advice!
first person here that actually helped me .. kind of.
i'm still going to wait a while..
but if i still keep seeing the signals..
after a while- i might just go for it!