Running into a problem, who's it gonna be?

By dating all these guys you aren't finding what you like in a man. In effect your playing games with your own mind. The more you date the more confused you'll be. In the long road choosing one will only become more difficult because the options are so numersous. Trust me. All people have redeemable qualities, as each of these men will. Until you make a decision to give one of them your full attention you will be giving each of them only a portion of you. While this may add to their lust for you, eventually most men will be turned off for one reason or another because your not sharing yourself with one man. Your giving pieces to each one.

This type of dating behavior is what teenagers do. Not adults. You should continue to work on yourself, don't look for a relationship, look for yourself. Then once you find yourself, when that special someone comes along it will be a no brainier. All of these shenanigans are just mixing you up, hence the right one. How can their be one right one? Wake up!!!!

This type of dating behavior is what teenagers do. Not adults. You should continue to work on yourself, don't look for a relationship, look for yourself. Then once you find yourself, when that special someone comes along it will be a no brainier. All of these shenanigans are just mixing you up, hence the right one. How can their be one right one? Wake up!!!!

An engagement to go out socially with another person, often out of romantic interest.
So if your just friends, by definition, I don't consider that dating. For me there has to be some romantic flame. And from my experience I have seen a lot of people never grow out of looking for the flame in as many people as they could for all the wrong reasons.
So to summarize if your just friends with them and only have romantic interests in one then excuse my misunderstanding. But if your looking for romantic interests in friends than I stick to what I said.
In the good old days when my grandparents were young, they found their romantic interest, got jobs, graduated, married them, had kids, and lived life. Was life perfect? No, they fight and fought all the time. Thats life. You'll never find the T.V. version of love and if you think you have beware, he may be a real good player.
In todays world with all these romantic mix-ups, technology advances, dating services and so forth. STD's, divorce, and civil unrest flourish and people continue to chase dreams. Anyway I could go on and on as you can see. Your young. Best of luck. Don't fall into the traps me and a lot of others in society have fallen into for the sake of your own inner peace and happiness. Good luck!

I have been seeing a few guys now and I have basically narrowed it down to 3, possibly 4 guys..

Crazielady wrote:

I have been seeing a few guys now and I have basically narrowed it down to 3, possibly 4 guys..

Are you talking about a train?

wanna join??

Crazielady, responding to my query about her throwing a train wrote:

wanna join??

Why, yes, I would like to join. I would like that very much. I would prefer the first spot please.

It's nice having someone who doesn't mind if you sit naked on the couch, not wearing any makeup with your hair in a ponytail and eat Cheetos without a napkin. Very nice indeed.

Nah.... I'm gonna have to pass.

I mean what happens if the three you narrowed it down to, you have sex with them and are not compatible. Do you keep finding guys and having sex with them until you find the one your compatible with?

Well hopefully part of the testing process is not sexually compatibility.
That is especially a danger.
I mean what happens if the three you narrowed it down to, you have sex with them and are not compatible. Do you keep finding guys and having sex with them until you find the one your compatible with?
See what I'm saying? There really is no right or wrong as with what I said and what they said. There is no book on the right way to go about relationships. Do whats best for you. I just speak from the pitfalls of my experiences. Someone may in the beginning seem like the one according to your testing strategy.
For instance, he may accept you and fight fair, and not argue over petty stuff in the begginning and then once you committ change up completely. Thats all I'm saying. If you like 'em when your ready to commit, try and make it work. This compatibility your talking about rarely exists and aside from the work needed in parenting, a relationship requires a LOT of work for it to last no matter how compatible you were in the beginning!