Hey confusedgirl,
I just want to ask what made you post on the forum about this? You made a smart move by telling him there would be no sex if the situation wasn't comfortable to you.
Often, when we ask questions like this, we have a gut feeling that something is not right, and we just need support.
I really hope you keep listening to that instinct, because it almost always lets us know when there is a problem.
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Condoms with antispermicidal lube/gel would be plenty effective.
There is no need for every woman to go on the pill or take a shot (which may be an option for you).
However, I would definetly dump this guy. Then, choose the type of birth control that is right for you for future relationships. Be ready beforehand.
I think condoms are a must no matter what: there is not just pregnancy to consider, but STD's ! I'm not trying to scare you: it is just a fact of life of being sexually active.
cheers