Then go to counseling alone. At the very least, you'll get some tools on how to deal with his bullshit, because that indeed is what he's got going on.
Do you work outside the home? If not, then it may be time to start seriously considering that. Mask up (the Delta variant is no joke) and get out to where there are people who don't treat you like a kid. Get skills and/or brush up the skills you've got. Build your resume. Unless your youngest is a nursing infant (and even then it's possible), you can go out and work. Got no experience? That's okay. Retail, fast food, and clerical can all be possibilities.
And save money.
I am suggesting working not just for cash but also because I think it'll shore up your self-esteem to be bringing home at least some of the bacon.
And it's harder for your husband to treat you like an infant if you're doing a 9 to 5 or even a 9 to 1. And even harder if your salary is paying bills or feeding and clothing your kids, or at least contributing thereto.
You should probably also talk to your doctor about birth control if you haven't already. Decisions to have children are, of course, highly personal. But you'll be tied there forever if you keep having very young children around. By my calculations, your eldest is probably close to graduating high school. Your kids' independence can trigger your own -- but only if you can move in that direction.
Independence doesn't have to mean separation or divorce. Instead, it can mean having time to yourself with no demands being put on you. And being treated like the grownup that you obviously are.
You can also, perhaps (if you're active in a church) talk to your pastor, with or without your husband, although preferably with. No one has to get into blame or anything like that. It's more that if your husband has to justify his actions to a fellow grownup, he may find that's hard to do.
And finally, of course if you or any of your children are in physical danger, then I urge you to take action because your safety is vital.