I didn't see these posts till late but was thinking of contacting her family as my next step about what is going on. They have some idea what she's doing but not that it is every day sleeping late or how much/often she smokes.
We did have a big argument tonight which I audio recorded, I brought up that she has been getting noticably worse and was planning to get into some changes she needs to make (had this talk many times) she actually Supried me and started saying she wanted to seperate with some ridiculous idea we would just split custody evenly out of court and something about still living together, it made no sense.
I said if we are separating were going to court and listed off all the problems from my original post, driving high with son, the sleeping and drugs all day, not doing any of the parental responsibilitie exct.
I do feel there's no real way for me to prove this in court which is the real scary part since from what I've read I can not use recordings which just means its my word vs hers and she's obviously not going to be truthful.
She wound up throwing out all her paraphernalia and pot saying she will clean up but it was more aimed towards for court than clean her act up.
After talking awhile she was appoligising and we talked about going to some form of therapy and I also asked her to go separately aswell and be more honest with them and really try and change these personal issues since I really feel most of our issues snowball from the marijuanna use. She feels like I don't think of her as a good mother and don't show love towards her which I agree but that is directly related to her actions which I said to her.
I do love her but i don't want to stay with her in the current state, I would defiantly rather fix this relationship than give up though.
So thats where Im at now.