Mommy, Im scared of my bed...or is it my room?

Calm happy smiling mommy probably goes a long way to convince her that everything is ok a lot faster than responding to emergency mommy. She'll get her cues from you and in time learn that waking up alone is nothing to cry about. Kids need to see the same thing every day for a while before they completely figure it out.

There is a lot of truth to that, but in terms of sleeping, (and within the "every child is different" framework) that hasn't been at all true in our experience.

Mostly, sozlet just plain didn't cry at all (co-sleeping for a long time, so if there was anything that upset her she'd just grab me, and when I wasn't in bed I'd keep an eye on a video monitor -- when she'd wake up, she'd sit there and look at it until I noticed her and went up to get her). But whenever she did cry, I'd pick her up/ soothe her, and she's now way (ahem) independent.

Anyway, it sounds like this part of the situation has improved (from your first post):



If she's going to sleep fine, that's certainly most of the battle.

at 4 she already thinks she runs the world huh?

5 days...

no morning screaming. NOTHING..
it seems to have stopped as quickly as it started.
( woohoo )

Alright! High five! Good job, mom.

im not sure I did anything?
Maybe i did.. I dont know.
Im afraid to say anything about it because as soon as I do : WAAAAAHHH :
but nothing. Not a peep.
She is her happy chattery self in the mornings now.
I hear her wake up because I can hear her rustling. But she is back to just sitting in her bed chattering to herself, playing with her toes, or her sheets.. and waiting for me.
Hmm.. :-)

Consistency is key.

In parenting, even not doing anything is doing something.

very true. ;-)