Sorry to say this as you are holding out hope for a reconciliation. The primary issue is that you lied twice about who you are. Lying shows a character flaw and that is no foundation for any relationship. Lying is an act of desperation.
No matter what was said or written, neither of you is really in love as you chose not to disclose what your real life is about. He said he was forced to go out with this person. Reall?! Forced to do it?
Furthermore, your age differences means you’re both at different stages of life. While you may look younger, you’ve got an established family whereas he doesn’t. Your lies were unfair and made it unlikely that this would EVER work out.
He most likely is trying to let you down easily. You had no basis for a relationship and you never met him in person so there was only a fantasy.